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I like for sure for definitely have had ADHD my whole life and have dealt
with it with a cobbled-together series of coping mechanisms that have
sometimes served me and sometimes crippled me, and the state of medicine
and prescriptions in the US is such that I don’t think I will ever actually
get to try medication or therapy about it, but like, you know, I have my
very small life and the things I know how to do with it and that’s fine,
it’s as well as anyone does really. This is not to complain, it’s just to
explain, a bit.
One of the things ADHD people get commonly, I’ve read, is impulsive
spending and such. And I super have that, it feels super good to buy a
bunch of sparkly shit I don’t need and i definitely lose my mind when it
comes to the Add To Cart button, and the way I’ve mostly dealt with it my
whole life is to just not buy things, and to get super weird about
hoarding. (You don’t need sparkly shit when your house is so full of old
broken impulse-purchased sparkly shit you can’t walk from one room to
another!) Yeah, that’s gone well. But.
Anyway it means I can live really frugally, and then once in a while I
wildly splurge on all the stuff I’ve denied myself, and actually it mostly
works out. There have been some problems, but like really, I do okay.
The pandemic unemployment clusterfuck intensified that, and completely
broke my ability to spend money– having literally zero income for seven
months and then getting $12k bodyslammed into my empty checking account in
35 transactions in a single day really fucked me up a lot. It took me a
while to start to piece back together any kind of relationship to money and
buying things at all, and I’m still not. Well, I wasn’t good at it to begin
with. I’ll wear shoes that have fallen apart and trousers I hate and a bra
that doesn’t fit for literal years, and then I’ll impulse-buy $300 worth of
garments that don’t fit, and never throw them out and only wear them to
punish myself. Etc.
So anyhow I’ve hit a point where I have to buy things, and it’s fine I’ve
saved up for it (actually it was in our budget and Dude was like why is
there all this extra money did you not buy underwear and yeah no dude i did
not)– and I did okay, I bought a bunch of bras that didn’t fit and I actually
did exchange them, so there’s that for starters. (The punchline is that
they’re not manufactured in the size I actually need, but the close-enough
is actually better than the old close-enough I’ve been wearing for three
years, so I’ll take it.)
I’ve also spent a frankly insane amount of money on wool leggings, which I
have wanted for literal years and have hoarded a bunch of salvaged
ill-fitting woollen gear mostly handed down from other people and still
have not been able to be confident enough in my sewing ability to make
anything out of them. So I have bought some, and maybe I’ll still get my
shit together and make something and maybe I won’t.
I also bought one of those Instagram darling wool dresses, and we’ll see
how I feel about that when it arrives.
I’ve also determined that several things I very badly want are not
manufactured in my size, so I cannot have them, so that’s a bummer. (Anyone
with leads on a velvet blazer for a 50″ bust size, or silk underwear in a
50″ hip size, please let me know.)
But now I’m facing the downside of this Internet era. The upside is that I
can find things at all; I’m old enough to remember going to the mall and
dragging myself into several stores, finding none of them had anything that
fit me (when i was a teenager into my early 20s I fit very neatly into the
slot of being too fat for the largest size in stores selling misses’ sizes,
and too small for the smallest size in the plus-size stores) and keeping
searching until I cried in at least two fitting rooms, then dragging myself
back out of the mall with literally nothing. Now I can just go to a new
website and poke around until I find their size chart, check for my bust
measurement or hip measurement, and if they have it I’ll look, and if they
don’t I can close the window and get on with my life.
But the downside is that I spend the money and then I still don’t have the
thing, so it’s not there to help improve my mood right now in the dark
depths of my dire need.
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