dragonlady7 | Jan. 19th, 2021

Jan. 19th, 2021

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sexhaver https://sexhaver.tumblr.com/post/640402103491346432:

obviously you should always take into account the viewpoints of people more affected by an issue than you are before forming an opinion on it, but there are two important caveats to this:

no group is a monolith with identical views on everything. it is always possible to find two people from a given group with opposite and incompatible views on any given subject.
at a certain point you have to actually form your own opinion. if you try to be Woke by serving as an uncritical mouthpiece for minorities then you’re going to look like an idiot when one of them shows up with the aforementioned opposite and incompatible view.

you should hold opinions because you sincerely believe them and have researched the relevant facts and, yes, consulted with members of minorities affected by them. you should not hold opinions because you’re “listening to [x] voices” and nothing else. (Your picture was not posted)

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Yes! I had considered using them as like, an edge-trimming on the hems of garments! That was the most coherent idea I’d had.

The other similar method of cord production I’ve done a bit of is lucet weaving, which produces something similar to the beginner’s six-loop square braid that tora42 https://tmblr.co/mc7OZD6FiZS993uqRToxwRQ had in the thing I reblogged (they reblogged with a more elaborate lanyard in the time between I started responding to the post and when I posted it, LOL)– but I can’t find my dang lucet. (Of course I own two. They’re probably together, somewhere.) Lucet is best done with, like, silk yarn, and I’d used that stuff for bodice lacing and such. (With thread eyelets– metal eyelets would shred the cord.)

Semi-unrelatedly to all of this, I got a spinning wheel over the summer and am attempting to learn to spin, and so far I’ve only spun some indifferent wool yarn but I’m hoping to get more skilled and branch out. (I happen to have acquired an antique flax wheel that balks and sulks if I spin anything but fine thread on it, which like, is challenging ok, and I’ve had a lot going on, and anyway I’m daydreaming of spinning pretty things but I don’t knit or crochet so I’ve been researching things I can make with my handspun that isn’t sweaters or granny squares because I don’t need yet more fibercrafting tools in my house and also I can’t spin thick enough yarn for them anyway.)

It’s really a shame I don’t do any SCA stuff anymore. It’s not like I can’t couch my painstakingly hand-braided-from-homespun-fibers braids down as trims on modern garments but it’s not going to get appreciated the same way. 😅

Anyway this was why I was pondering offering fiber-art-based art treats for F&S because I don’t know what other audience there is for them in my life at the moment, LOL.

I don’t have much by way of coherent ideas but I’ve been doing a lot of applique-and-embroidery pieces (… a lot. Two! I’ve done two, and haven’t figurd out the finishing part. I guess they’ll wind up… like… tiny quilts? I’ll quilt-sandwich them over batting with a backing and bind the edges? IDK)– anyway some lengths of fingerloop braid would probably go a ways toward giving that some dimensional appeal too. What a good idea that is, I’m answering this publicly solely so I don’t convince myself I came up with it on my own later, LOL. (Your picture was not posted)

lol, good for me, fingerloop braiding, girderednerve

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Oh that’s fantastic! Yeah, fingerloop is cool because it’s zero tools– you don’t even need a needle to do it. Just your fingers! And something to tie off to!

tora42 reblogged your post and added:

i just used some yarn that i had laying around from when i used to crochet/knit. i have carpal tunnel syndrome in my right hand that’s made crafting nigh impossible but turns out i can do this well enough with only mild discomfort. i’ve been kind of going crazy not being able to make anything so huge thanks to you for making me aware that this was a thing!

Ah, wonderful! I hadn’t even thought about that, but it is a lot easier on the hands than many things. (Your picture was not posted)

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bomberqueen17 https://bomberqueen17.tumblr.com/post/640698714443464704/big-doings-in-the-household-replaced-the-old :

Big doings in the household: replaced the old fridge that used to sing to Chita and pee on the floor with a new fridge that is much quieter and drier and hopefully more energy-efficient,but the built in ice machine (! fancy) still sings songs to Chita so we’re okay here. (at Tonawanda , New York) https://www.instagram.com/p/CKNRCQ3BD31/?igshid=iryi5ktnt2xy

thesacredreznor https://tmblr.co/mPvGj85Xj7BbilZCsFFKcDg replied to this post: Can I just say that I love that wallpaper?

You know, I don’t hate the wallpaper. But when we redo the kitchen, it’s gotta go, because it’s peeling in some places, and also because we’re probably moving some of the walls, so.

It’s certainly original to the house’s construction, in 1950, as is the Formica paneling on the wall behind me as I take this photo. (Also original: the plastic corner protector you can see on the near wall there.) (Also also original: the linoleum floor which is torn and stained and my least favorite bit of the house.) (Also also also original: the window you can nearly see, which fell apart and Dude and I had to glue the sash back together with him on one side and me on the other holding the glass in until we could get it to stay.)

I don’t know what we’ll do in its place. It’s the only bit of the original decor left that I like. Maybe I’ll get a high-quality photo of a bit of it, print it life-size, and frame it and hang it on the wall as a memento of the old kitchen, LOL. (Your picture was not posted)

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bomberqueen17 https://bomberqueen17.tumblr.com/post/640763015788183552/sigh:

i looked it up and minimum wage is going up for upstate NY this year.

Keep reading https://bomberqueen17.tumblr.com/post/640763015788183552/sigh

THRILLING UPDATE: As I was writing that post, a coworker had just come in and was working at the desk next to me, showing me how to use an esoteric piece of equipment so I can do yet more work for the same pay, as she held forth on how she needs to quit this job and get a better one. Yes, thanks, great. She at least stepped a few feet away to take her mask off to drink her coffee.

Twenty minutes later, she got a phone call that one of her isolation pod has just tested positive for COVID, so she’s gone to go get herself a test.

Fucking fantastic.

What do you think, should I wear a mask in my house and sleep in the guest bed to give Dude a fighting chance until I hear back about her test, or is it not worth the attempt??? (Your picture was not posted)

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i looked it up and minimum wage is going up for upstate NY this year.

I’ve been at this job since 2007, and I’d started just above minimum, and by throwing holy tantrums I’d managed to get myself a couple of raises, but these minimum wage increases have now caught up to those, and now every year they surpass them, and every year I get my first paycheck and it’s at last year’s minimum wage rate and we have to call the boss, who lives in PA where they haven’t increased the minimum wage in ten years or more, and we have to tell him he’s underpaying all of us, and after some kerfuffle I get my raise and now I’m making minimum again.

At this point I’m the only one who knows how to do everything I know how to do, and if I left they’d be screwed, but. Minimum wage, and if they could pay me less, they would.

It doesn’t entirely matter; Dude makes four or five times what I make, and even though he’s long since paid back all the money I spent getting him through his last year of college and paying off his car and all, he still figures we’re even and don’t need to keep track. Which is a huge privilege.

It just makes me think, you know, I’ve hung onto this job because they’re willing to let me work whenever, provided I stay within a range of availability, and the job’s not hard and is in some ways satisfying.

But really. They’re paying me the least they legally can. I could go out and get any other job and make this much, or more. Why do I bother? It’s basically charity, on my part, to keep coming in, with the decade of experience I now have, and the bachelor’s degree they’ve never cared about (it was supposed to be a temporary summer job in ‘07 while I lined up some other things…. ha).

Anyway.

I could be making more money right now if they laid me off and let me collect unemployment. Mostly what I’m doing is filling in and doing the work of the other employees who’ve cut their hours down so they can collect the unemployment bonus. I don’t mind, but it does sort of sting. You know what I could do if I were being paid to stay home? Well, we know what I did do, I went and taught MM’s kids how to read.

Anyway.

I shouldn’t complain; the fact that I don’t need to worry about money is an incredible privilege, and one I can only have because I’ve had such incredible fortune in finding a stable relationship with a reliable person. I can’t afford not to work at all, but as long as I’m earning something it doesn’t matter that much.

If only they could afford to pay me even a token amount at the farm, I’d walk out of this place and never come back. But they really can’t. So I’ll stay on there as a seasonal volunteer, and keep schlepping back across the state to put in some hours for minimum, here, because I have to come back here to see my dude anyway. It’s a holding-pattern of a life, but it is what it is. (Your picture was not posted)

afford that kind of catharsis, just panicking silently i guess

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runawaymarbles https://runawaymarbles.tumblr.com/

I am so sorry, that sounds really stressful. How long do tests there usually take? (We get ours in about 18 hours at our local place so if it’s that fast wearing a mask at home may not be the worst idea)

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It is absolutely worth a try; we did that same thing when my husband’s coworker got a positive, and were really glad we were when he did catch it. Neither I nor our toddler caught it, and we did test two weeks later just to be sure!

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harpergetsfannish https://harpergetsfannish.tumblr.com/

Per my family’s experience: wear a mask and sleep in the guest room until you have your resaults. You may keep your dude from catching it. Physically staying away from each other is best practice. (Chita may be able to carry it from one person to another on her fur.) Fingers crossed you don’t have it.

results take 3-4 days here.

I’m not getting a test until I hear back about her results; if for no other reason than that if I was exposed, I won’t have any antibodies for several days, so there’s literally no point in my getting tested yet.

So if I decide to isolate, that’s 3-4 days to hear back on my coworker, and then if hers is positive I will go test, and that’s 3-4 more days to hear back.

here’s the other complication: the guest bedroom is Dude’s office. if I sleep there, he can’t use his desk. Possibly I could air it out between, but– other option is I kick him out of our bedroom. But our living room is so small, I would probably have to isolate myself entirely in the bedroom, as the living room and kitchen are contiguous. So I’m looking at a minimum of seven days of staying entirely in one room in our house. (A room where the only furniture is a bed, mind you.)

The other possibility is that he goes and moves in with his mother until I hear back. That would be easiest. She lives a quarter of a mile away and has high speed Internet and a guest room. Maybe I’ll suggest that. I don’t know. It’s not that they don’t get along, but that would possibly drive them both crazy– but, it would be feasible.

And of course, I don’t get paid sick leave, and there’s no paid leave for self-quarantining either. Probably I would continue going to work at least until I hear back from coworker, because 1) that’s the only way I’ll hear back from coworker, and 2) if she’s not coming in there is no one who can do the work! And on a normal day, I do not have any close contact with coworkers, it was expressly because I asked her how a thing worked that she was near me at all.

Sure there are objectively correct things to do, but in the absence of literally any support mechanisms, they’re almost impossible to do. What it comes down to is I’ll have to ask Dude what he thinks. (Your picture was not posted)

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Dude is going to move out and stay with his mom until my coworker gets her test results. She says she’s doing a rapid test, so maybe that’ll be sooner rather than later.

If her results are positive, I’ll get tested. Though I feel like I should wait another day to develop antibodies– getting tested immediately after the potential exposure seems like it’d be stupid, given what I know of viruses? I don’t know.

Anyway. Fuck, this is dumb. This is so dumb!

I had to snap at another coworker to please stand a little farther from me just now; she was giving me the other one’s number so I could get directly in touch with her, and it was a super-normal helpful impulse on her part to try to help me figure out how to enter the thing in my phone, but I was like gIRL BACK OFF PLEASE this is part of the problem!!! this is how we got in this mess, having normal conversations like normal people who are nice to each other! we can’t do that! we have to be distant weird weirdos!!

sob

anyway i cope extremely poorly with being left on my own so regardless i will be having a sad one tonight. (Your picture was not posted)

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The cast of the Original Trilogy had cliched, boring character concepts that were executed wonderfully enough for it not to matter.

The cast of the Prequel Trilogy had interesting concepts that were executed poorly enough to make them seem utterly stupid.

The cast of the Sequel Trilogy had amazing, thought-provoking concepts that were executed in the town square and put up on pikes as a warning to others. (Your picture was not posted)

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Coworker’s rapid test came back negative but the people at the testing facility said that if your exposure was less than 5 days ago, the rapid test has a 20-100% (!!!) chance of a false negative

BUT

going along with that, the reason would be that she’s not sick enough yet to be shedding virus, so my exposure likelihood goes down from unlikely to extremely unlikely.

So, she’s quarantining for 10 days because she like, hung out with this person, maskless, who now has a confirmed positive test, and she will retest.

But. I’m in discussion with Dude, who had already left for his mother’s and is there now, about what he wants to do. He’s staying at his mom’s tonight because she’s already making him dinner.

I’m home from work and I’m just going to drink, for a bit, I think. flomp (Your picture was not posted)

not, alas, about the author, that quarantine life

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ghostalservice https://ghostalservice.tumblr.com/ said: Unlikely-to-be-positive-but-quarantining-anyway high five!!

I just wish quarantining meant… not going to work, instead of cutting out literally everything else in my life and only going to work. 😰

I’m not really very well domesticated. Dude’s only been gone 5 hours and I’ve forgotten how to people. Chita hasn’t stopped yelling at me since I got home, because I am not Dude and it is not right that i’m the only one here. and i ate a bunch of stuff I don’t actually like for dinner because making good food for just me seemed like an extravagance. (listen that pouch of tuna only went off in 2016, that’s not even really expired! i’ll just get rid of it by eating it. oh it tastes like nothing? whatever man!)

sigh.

On the upside I’m burning incense and candles since I can’t do either thing when Dude is in the house (he gets altar boy flashbacks… never ever try to burn candles for romance when you’re romancing a catholic school boy), so the novelty is great but never fear I also made sure I know where the fire extinguisher is because setting the house on fire while I’m home alone is like– well like lightning striking twice kinda, but…

ayy i never did restock my great santeria candle collection after the yurt fire, i’m having to make do with these random old ones. where’s a good place to get santeria candles in this economy?? (Your picture was not posted)