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mannersminded replied to your post “not shaped like a human”
in solidarity: im hauling around a 36K right now (or i was when i got the last bra, that i am growing out of… right now…) shit SUCKS. big hugs to you.
Thanks. I mean, they’re not that bad to actually haul around, they’re just literally impossible to clothe in current fashions, and by current I mean “of this or the previous century”. Oh, this sort of touches on another thing, though– when I still cared and was really looking and trying to find or make bras and following blogs and participating in communities swapping tips and brands and sizing info and such, there was always this inevitable theme of people who would be like WELL OBVIOUSLY YOU NEED TO CUT THEM OFF.
That shit got so upsetting. It would happen IRL too. It was always a woman who’d get insistent about it, always someone who’d had a reduction herself, and even though I was always careful to point out that listen, I have no health problems here, I get that some people do and my sympathies to them but I’m perfectly fine and have even done a lot of pretty athletic shit; it’s just that I can’t find clothes that fit, and I’m at the end of my tether trying to clothe myself. They were always like YOU MUST UNDERGO SURGERY TO CORRECT YOUR PROBLEMATIC BODY and shit, if that’s not an exhausting thing to hear. I had kind of blocked it out, but it’s definitely one of the reasons I stopped participating in the busty-advice communities on Livejournal.
walburgablack replied to your post “clotpoleofthelord replied to your post “not shaped like a human” …”
Would corsetry be better, for back and boob-support? or is that also impractical, for whatever reason?
I’ve tried it in the past! No ready-to-wear options exist that fit me in any kind of comfortable way, so I spent a decade learning to sew, and made some supportive garments for historic re-enactment stuff that wound up reasonably comfortable. But you can’t just. Wear that. In your day-to-day. People always want to know where the costume party is. And it’s not like you can just wear a boned bodice and jeans for casual daily stuff. And it’s absolutely not suited to physical labor. So… I mean… I have a couple pieces of formalwear I made myself and wore, but it does not give a currently-blends-in-with-normal shape at all. If I worked at a historic site I’d absolutely be delighted to make my own pairs of bodies etc., I find late 18th-c a very comfortable silhouette and you can do it without whalebone and such, but.
I don’t work at a historic site, so. Generally that silhouette isn’t well-suited for sitting in modern chairs either, so I could wear it to my office job and just deal with people thinking I was nuts, but I wouldn’t be comfortable either.
wyomingnot replied to your post “clotpoleofthelord replied to your post “not shaped like a human” …”
omg, the bras here. if i can even find the band size i need (i’m pretty damn big by US standards; i’m a fucking blimp by chinese standards), the cups are always too close together and while i have found bras that fit around me and my boobs fit in the cups… they pushed ‘em together and the effect was something akin to a significant uniboob. which i will pass on, thanks.
(i am lucky enough that i can get bras that work for my body at a not-bad price. if i cared more about my appearance, i could get nicer bras, but really… nobody’s looking. so there’s no point. as you said, i look better with the money in my pocket.)
<3 and yeah I think that’s a huge component of how poorly-suited bras are for online ordering. It’s just really hard to know without trying them on whether they’ll fit, there’s so much individuality in how that area is shaped and so much variation in bras and oh gosh.
I am tired of thinking about it. :( But it does make me think, at some point I should pull out all the bras I own, and photograph them all at one time. I own so many. They’re one thing I feel like I can’t really donate– they’re such weird sizes, and I’ve probably worn them half to death– and I feel weird throwing them out because there’s so much hardware on them, and yet there’s so much going on there that I can’t really take them apart and repurpose them– maybe if I get them all in one place, though, I can make an effort to give away the less-worn ones, and pick apart the others and save the notions for the someday-far-away fairytale world where I figure out how to make bras. (Or maybe I could make a hilarious quilt that is just a bunch of bra cups stuffed and sewn to a backing, kind of like a huge demented yo-yo quilt. it’s Art.) (Isn’t there some goddess with a thousand breasts? I should look her up and ask her where she buys her lingerie.)
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mannersminded replied to your post “not shaped like a human”
in solidarity: im hauling around a 36K right now (or i was when i got the last bra, that i am growing out of… right now…) shit SUCKS. big hugs to you.
Thanks. I mean, they’re not that bad to actually haul around, they’re just literally impossible to clothe in current fashions, and by current I mean “of this or the previous century”. Oh, this sort of touches on another thing, though– when I still cared and was really looking and trying to find or make bras and following blogs and participating in communities swapping tips and brands and sizing info and such, there was always this inevitable theme of people who would be like WELL OBVIOUSLY YOU NEED TO CUT THEM OFF.
That shit got so upsetting. It would happen IRL too. It was always a woman who’d get insistent about it, always someone who’d had a reduction herself, and even though I was always careful to point out that listen, I have no health problems here, I get that some people do and my sympathies to them but I’m perfectly fine and have even done a lot of pretty athletic shit; it’s just that I can’t find clothes that fit, and I’m at the end of my tether trying to clothe myself. They were always like YOU MUST UNDERGO SURGERY TO CORRECT YOUR PROBLEMATIC BODY and shit, if that’s not an exhausting thing to hear. I had kind of blocked it out, but it’s definitely one of the reasons I stopped participating in the busty-advice communities on Livejournal.
walburgablack replied to your post “clotpoleofthelord replied to your post “not shaped like a human” …”
Would corsetry be better, for back and boob-support? or is that also impractical, for whatever reason?
I’ve tried it in the past! No ready-to-wear options exist that fit me in any kind of comfortable way, so I spent a decade learning to sew, and made some supportive garments for historic re-enactment stuff that wound up reasonably comfortable. But you can’t just. Wear that. In your day-to-day. People always want to know where the costume party is. And it’s not like you can just wear a boned bodice and jeans for casual daily stuff. And it’s absolutely not suited to physical labor. So… I mean… I have a couple pieces of formalwear I made myself and wore, but it does not give a currently-blends-in-with-normal shape at all. If I worked at a historic site I’d absolutely be delighted to make my own pairs of bodies etc., I find late 18th-c a very comfortable silhouette and you can do it without whalebone and such, but.
I don’t work at a historic site, so. Generally that silhouette isn’t well-suited for sitting in modern chairs either, so I could wear it to my office job and just deal with people thinking I was nuts, but I wouldn’t be comfortable either.
wyomingnot replied to your post “clotpoleofthelord replied to your post “not shaped like a human” …”
omg, the bras here. if i can even find the band size i need (i’m pretty damn big by US standards; i’m a fucking blimp by chinese standards), the cups are always too close together and while i have found bras that fit around me and my boobs fit in the cups… they pushed ‘em together and the effect was something akin to a significant uniboob. which i will pass on, thanks.
(i am lucky enough that i can get bras that work for my body at a not-bad price. if i cared more about my appearance, i could get nicer bras, but really… nobody’s looking. so there’s no point. as you said, i look better with the money in my pocket.)
<3 and yeah I think that’s a huge component of how poorly-suited bras are for online ordering. It’s just really hard to know without trying them on whether they’ll fit, there’s so much individuality in how that area is shaped and so much variation in bras and oh gosh.
I am tired of thinking about it. :( But it does make me think, at some point I should pull out all the bras I own, and photograph them all at one time. I own so many. They’re one thing I feel like I can’t really donate– they’re such weird sizes, and I’ve probably worn them half to death– and I feel weird throwing them out because there’s so much hardware on them, and yet there’s so much going on there that I can’t really take them apart and repurpose them– maybe if I get them all in one place, though, I can make an effort to give away the less-worn ones, and pick apart the others and save the notions for the someday-far-away fairytale world where I figure out how to make bras. (Or maybe I could make a hilarious quilt that is just a bunch of bra cups stuffed and sewn to a backing, kind of like a huge demented yo-yo quilt. it’s Art.) (Isn’t there some goddess with a thousand breasts? I should look her up and ask her where she buys her lingerie.)
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