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understandishable:
Dammit, I get so annoyed by d/s AUs where the d/s is too, like…DISORGANIZED! Like people doing d/s stuff with all their friends and coworkers, instead of just people they’re dating and having sex with. I guess the issue is whether being dom or sub is defined as “how you are in a sexual/romantic relationship” vs. “how you are in general.” It’s not that the latter can’t make sense in an AU, but it’s just not something that’s relatable to me, or that I find attractive. Maybe reading d/s AUs for relatability was my first mistake.
I feel you on this so much!
Like, I mean, I write a lot of sex. A lot. And some of that sex, a great deal of that sex, has D/s undertones, like one character taking charge, a character relying on another to mentally transport them, that kind of thing. I definitely have a lot of weird little power exchanges going on in sex (as in conversations!) because I feel like that does tend to happen in real life too.
And I enjoy reading about that in other people’s stories. But it really puts it over the edge to me when it becomes so– like, all-encompassing, I guess, is the word I’d use. I do grok that there are people who are Lifestyle type of people where literally everything they do is colored by this, and I definitely lack the… not hardware, but not really even software– firmware, maybe? to appreciate this.
It sort of selfishly makes me sad that so many good authors are so heavily into the D/s AU thing, because I try to read the stories anyway out of enjoyment of the authors’ writing styles, but sweet lord, I cannot actually suspend my disbelief long enough to enjoy a story where everyone in the entire world is defined by their sex-related role.
understandishable:
Dammit, I get so annoyed by d/s AUs where the d/s is too, like…DISORGANIZED! Like people doing d/s stuff with all their friends and coworkers, instead of just people they’re dating and having sex with. I guess the issue is whether being dom or sub is defined as “how you are in a sexual/romantic relationship” vs. “how you are in general.” It’s not that the latter can’t make sense in an AU, but it’s just not something that’s relatable to me, or that I find attractive. Maybe reading d/s AUs for relatability was my first mistake.
I feel you on this so much!
Like, I mean, I write a lot of sex. A lot. And some of that sex, a great deal of that sex, has D/s undertones, like one character taking charge, a character relying on another to mentally transport them, that kind of thing. I definitely have a lot of weird little power exchanges going on in sex (as in conversations!) because I feel like that does tend to happen in real life too.
And I enjoy reading about that in other people’s stories. But it really puts it over the edge to me when it becomes so– like, all-encompassing, I guess, is the word I’d use. I do grok that there are people who are Lifestyle type of people where literally everything they do is colored by this, and I definitely lack the… not hardware, but not really even software– firmware, maybe? to appreciate this.
It sort of selfishly makes me sad that so many good authors are so heavily into the D/s AU thing, because I try to read the stories anyway out of enjoyment of the authors’ writing styles, but sweet lord, I cannot actually suspend my disbelief long enough to enjoy a story where everyone in the entire world is defined by their sex-related role.
