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highlyeccentric had a really great (locked) post about the current and ever-present debate about whether feminists should wear makeup, and quoted this Tweet:
And I just wanted to relay a little side anecdote, more or less as a thought exercise, if you will.
So my dude, my partner for about 16 years now, is a software engineer. In his undergrad program in college, he went through a courseload that was extremely heavy at one point, and he had no time to think about much of anything besides work, food, and sleep. So he stopped cutting his hair, which was something honestly his mother had generally taken care of booking him appointments for anyway; he'd had a buzz cut through middle school, and just a generic short "man" haircut ever since.
That academic quarter, he just stopped cutting his hair, and it grew through a horrible in-between stage, and by the time he had time to notice it or think about it, it was long enough to put into a ponytail. So he bought a container of ponytail elastics, which was the first time he had ever considered such a thing in his life, and put his hair into a ponytail, and that is the sum total of attention he has ever in his life devoted to this.
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Anyway, I just thought it was a useful thought exercise to write all that out. Especially since the comment thread of that Tweet is all women justifying their own makeup habits in not very self-aware ways? I just thought i'd witter on not very self-awarely about something else, as a contrast.
Also, for something completely different, I wanted to say I love how many people took my last post as an invitation to describe the weather where they are and I am delighted by every response. <3 <3 <3
OK I should go do proper work now.
highlyeccentric had a really great (locked) post about the current and ever-present debate about whether feminists should wear makeup, and quoted this Tweet:
small brain: make-up is anti-feminist
big brain: make-up is empowering!
galaxy brain: the demand that women should question every little aspect of their lives in a desperate audit of what is or is not a tool of the patriarchy is, itself, a tool of the patriarchy
— Dr Charlotte Lydia Riley (@lottelydia) January 22, 2019
And I just wanted to relay a little side anecdote, more or less as a thought exercise, if you will.
So my dude, my partner for about 16 years now, is a software engineer. In his undergrad program in college, he went through a courseload that was extremely heavy at one point, and he had no time to think about much of anything besides work, food, and sleep. So he stopped cutting his hair, which was something honestly his mother had generally taken care of booking him appointments for anyway; he'd had a buzz cut through middle school, and just a generic short "man" haircut ever since.
That academic quarter, he just stopped cutting his hair, and it grew through a horrible in-between stage, and by the time he had time to notice it or think about it, it was long enough to put into a ponytail. So he bought a container of ponytail elastics, which was the first time he had ever considered such a thing in his life, and put his hair into a ponytail, and that is the sum total of attention he has ever in his life devoted to this.
( Read more... )
Anyway, I just thought it was a useful thought exercise to write all that out. Especially since the comment thread of that Tweet is all women justifying their own makeup habits in not very self-aware ways? I just thought i'd witter on not very self-awarely about something else, as a contrast.
Also, for something completely different, I wanted to say I love how many people took my last post as an invitation to describe the weather where they are and I am delighted by every response. <3 <3 <3
OK I should go do proper work now.
