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sleeping positions-- health benefits, personality correlations
uh... "just 5% [of those surveyed] said they sleep in a different position every night."
Hmm... I sleep in almost every one of those positions. Foetus, Yearner, Freefaller, Starfish, and occasionally Soldier, with Log once in a while if I'm tired.
Dude, that's every single one of them. I think there are some they've left out, too. I sleep in a different one most nights, and usually switch among them numerous times.
[edit]I will here declaim that I was in a terrible mood, that was later alleviated. Feel free not to continue.[/edit]
man, dave can really be a cold fish. all those stereotypes about the man being the physical one of a couple? wrong, hurtful, stupid, and a source of tension in my relationships. never works that way. men are never as interested in me as i am in them. it's a cold fact of life that my firm grounding in stereotypes always manages to convince me is because i'm unattractive, which is surely not the case (...right? Not that Dave would tell me otherwise, but I assume that since he's a rational being he wouldn't stay with me if he found me unattractive, which is kinda all I have to go on here). but it's quite annoying anyway.
in my situation, it's not helped by 1) dave needing 18 hours of sleep every fucking day, 2) dave not being interested in me as a physical human being more than about once every six weeks, and 3) dave not being particularly understanding about the possibility that this might hurt my feelings. He also, out of principle, won't take a hint and will respond only contrarily to nagging of any kind. So if I want affection from him, I have to ask for it outright, but then I sound stupid, so he's sarcastic about it.
I could complain, but then he acts even more contrary, and it pisses him off.
I could be sweet and sugary and try and cozy up to him, but he responds with either sarcasm or by stubbornly pretending he doesn't know what I want-- because I haven't asked, see, but if I ask then I sound dumb and he's sarcastic. (And this is where everyone in the world is wrong. "Just take your clothes off and throw yourself at him!" they say. If I tried that he either wouldn't notice, or would be annoyed. Don't ask me why. He just doesn't work that way.
I could be all whiny but that turns on his 'you're stupid' filter, which makes him be unkind to me.
I could write a whiny livejournal post, but what will that do? Piss him off, most likely, so he'll be sarcastic to me.
He's. Just. Not. That. Interested. He dislikes cuddling, he doesn't like unneccessary physical contact, he's uncomfortable with snuggling. He's annoyed by caressing, he's creeped out if i watch him sleep, he's not real big into spooning. He doesn't hug much either. Also, he's not real fond of kissing.
Don't get me wrong, he's great and we have a great time together and we generally get along fine and have no problem expressing affection.
But. Sometimes a chick just wants someone to tell her she's pretty and, I dunno, hold her hand or shit like that. They do it in movies all the time; I swear I've seen real people do it too, where they just, what's it called... express physical affection?
I'm a far more physical person than he, and so at times like this I suffer. I can't even go snuggle him while he sleeps, because he's elected to sleep on the couch for no particular reason (he made this decision rather early, before I decided I wanted some affection; it never crossed my mind (though i should know by now) that a 23-year-old would want to be asleep by 10 pm). There's no room on the couch and if I sat on him, he'd get mad. And I'm not going to spend any more time snuggling him while he's asleep and entirely unresponsive. I do quite a lot of that and while it's sometimes soothing, at times like this it's just fucking frustrating.
sleeping positions-- health benefits, personality correlations
uh... "just 5% [of those surveyed] said they sleep in a different position every night."
Hmm... I sleep in almost every one of those positions. Foetus, Yearner, Freefaller, Starfish, and occasionally Soldier, with Log once in a while if I'm tired.
Dude, that's every single one of them. I think there are some they've left out, too. I sleep in a different one most nights, and usually switch among them numerous times.
[edit]I will here declaim that I was in a terrible mood, that was later alleviated. Feel free not to continue.[/edit]
man, dave can really be a cold fish. all those stereotypes about the man being the physical one of a couple? wrong, hurtful, stupid, and a source of tension in my relationships. never works that way. men are never as interested in me as i am in them. it's a cold fact of life that my firm grounding in stereotypes always manages to convince me is because i'm unattractive, which is surely not the case (...right? Not that Dave would tell me otherwise, but I assume that since he's a rational being he wouldn't stay with me if he found me unattractive, which is kinda all I have to go on here). but it's quite annoying anyway.
in my situation, it's not helped by 1) dave needing 18 hours of sleep every fucking day, 2) dave not being interested in me as a physical human being more than about once every six weeks, and 3) dave not being particularly understanding about the possibility that this might hurt my feelings. He also, out of principle, won't take a hint and will respond only contrarily to nagging of any kind. So if I want affection from him, I have to ask for it outright, but then I sound stupid, so he's sarcastic about it.
I could complain, but then he acts even more contrary, and it pisses him off.
I could be sweet and sugary and try and cozy up to him, but he responds with either sarcasm or by stubbornly pretending he doesn't know what I want-- because I haven't asked, see, but if I ask then I sound dumb and he's sarcastic. (And this is where everyone in the world is wrong. "Just take your clothes off and throw yourself at him!" they say. If I tried that he either wouldn't notice, or would be annoyed. Don't ask me why. He just doesn't work that way.
I could be all whiny but that turns on his 'you're stupid' filter, which makes him be unkind to me.
I could write a whiny livejournal post, but what will that do? Piss him off, most likely, so he'll be sarcastic to me.
He's. Just. Not. That. Interested. He dislikes cuddling, he doesn't like unneccessary physical contact, he's uncomfortable with snuggling. He's annoyed by caressing, he's creeped out if i watch him sleep, he's not real big into spooning. He doesn't hug much either. Also, he's not real fond of kissing.
Don't get me wrong, he's great and we have a great time together and we generally get along fine and have no problem expressing affection.
But. Sometimes a chick just wants someone to tell her she's pretty and, I dunno, hold her hand or shit like that. They do it in movies all the time; I swear I've seen real people do it too, where they just, what's it called... express physical affection?
I'm a far more physical person than he, and so at times like this I suffer. I can't even go snuggle him while he sleeps, because he's elected to sleep on the couch for no particular reason (he made this decision rather early, before I decided I wanted some affection; it never crossed my mind (though i should know by now) that a 23-year-old would want to be asleep by 10 pm). There's no room on the couch and if I sat on him, he'd get mad. And I'm not going to spend any more time snuggling him while he's asleep and entirely unresponsive. I do quite a lot of that and while it's sometimes soothing, at times like this it's just fucking frustrating.
Hmph.
Date: 2003-09-17 06:31 am (UTC)[shrug]
Anybody _else_ want me to cook for them?
- Z