closure???
Jun. 6th, 2002 12:19 am![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
dragonlady7xnniexlxn (11:55:25 PM): of course brian saw the post
xnniexlxn (11:55:29 PM): he's a good friend of mine
xnniexlxn (11:55:42 PM): he read it himself and it pissed him off
xnniexlxn (11:57:42 PM): it really upset me
pxngxnqx (11:57:51 PM): yes. so then we talked about it for two hours and i explained where i was coming from, and you were like yeah........
xnniexlxn (11:57:52 PM): i had every rgith to forward it to my friends so they would know what was upsetting me
pxngxnqx (11:58:01 PM): two weeks later.
xnniexlxn (11:58:10 PM): i'm fine now
xnniexlxn (11:58:12 PM): i've seen darius
xnniexlxn (11:58:14 PM): we talked
xnniexlxn (11:58:17 PM): you and i talked
xnniexlxn (11:58:18 PM): i talked to dave
pxngxnqx (11:58:20 PM): yeah, we did.
xnniexlxn (11:58:21 PM): things are fine
xnniexlxn (11:58:37 PM): or at least, as far as i'm concerned they are
pxngxnqx (11:58:48 PM): i thought so too. so why is brian posting anonymous flames NOW?
xnniexlxn (12:00:21 AM): i don't know. maybe what you wrote really annoyed him. maybe even more so since he and i are a lot closer after 5 days on the road, and after he had to watch me deal with the flier crap, first with you, then wtih dave, and then aftermath of seeing darius.
pxngxnqx (12:00:54 AM): if you're close, wouldn't he understand that you were ok now, and not feel the need to hunt me down to call me a self-righteous bitch?
xnniexlxn (12:01:32 AM): what's your point?
pxngxnqx (12:02:03 AM): I was just wondering if things were OK now; dave had indicated to me that after our conversation, you had expressed to him the belief that i hated you, when i'd thought that the conversation had made it pretty clear that i didn't.
pxngxnqx (12:02:36 AM): i'm just worried, especially since this issue being unresolved is expressing itself in personal attacks on me by anonymous "strangers".
pxngxnqx (12:04:04 AM): i understand, i've set myself up as a critic and so have to take criticism in return, but his defense of you has consisted of name-calling and little else, so i'm a bit peeved. i don't mind an argument, i don't mind a debate. i don't mind being told i'm wrong. but i'm wondering from whence cometh such vitriol.
xnniexlxn (12:05:36 AM): i don't think that you hate me; i don't feel warm pink fuzzies either; but given the emotional ups and downs and the fucking soap opera that has been my life lately, i think i'm doing okay
pxngxnqx (12:05:59 AM): that's good then. i was really upset to think that all my explanation of myself hadn't gotten my point across.
pxngxnqx (12:06:21 AM): i was really concerned to think that you'd think that i'd only write something like that to attack you, when the purpose was quite the contrary.
xnniexlxn (12:07:10 AM): don't get me wrong, going back to read the post online would still piss me off and hurt me
pxngxnqx (12:07:45 AM): it wasn't meant to. but going back and reading the flier still pisses me off and hurts me, so i suppose there's only so much that rational discussion can do.
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pxngxnqx (12:11:38 AM): Hmm. Guess she wants me to take that post down. well, that image is linked from her website. if she takes the flier down, the post will be meaningless. i note that the flier is still up. bada-bing bada-boom. Post stays up.
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wasn't my entire point about taking the feelings of others into account? Freedom of expression and sensitivity must be balanced. This is my entire point. You can say anything you want, but you have to be responsible for it.
xnniexlxn (11:55:29 PM): he's a good friend of mine
xnniexlxn (11:55:42 PM): he read it himself and it pissed him off
xnniexlxn (11:57:42 PM): it really upset me
pxngxnqx (11:57:51 PM): yes. so then we talked about it for two hours and i explained where i was coming from, and you were like yeah........
xnniexlxn (11:57:52 PM): i had every rgith to forward it to my friends so they would know what was upsetting me
pxngxnqx (11:58:01 PM): two weeks later.
xnniexlxn (11:58:10 PM): i'm fine now
xnniexlxn (11:58:12 PM): i've seen darius
xnniexlxn (11:58:14 PM): we talked
xnniexlxn (11:58:17 PM): you and i talked
xnniexlxn (11:58:18 PM): i talked to dave
pxngxnqx (11:58:20 PM): yeah, we did.
xnniexlxn (11:58:21 PM): things are fine
xnniexlxn (11:58:37 PM): or at least, as far as i'm concerned they are
pxngxnqx (11:58:48 PM): i thought so too. so why is brian posting anonymous flames NOW?
xnniexlxn (12:00:21 AM): i don't know. maybe what you wrote really annoyed him. maybe even more so since he and i are a lot closer after 5 days on the road, and after he had to watch me deal with the flier crap, first with you, then wtih dave, and then aftermath of seeing darius.
pxngxnqx (12:00:54 AM): if you're close, wouldn't he understand that you were ok now, and not feel the need to hunt me down to call me a self-righteous bitch?
xnniexlxn (12:01:32 AM): what's your point?
pxngxnqx (12:02:03 AM): I was just wondering if things were OK now; dave had indicated to me that after our conversation, you had expressed to him the belief that i hated you, when i'd thought that the conversation had made it pretty clear that i didn't.
pxngxnqx (12:02:36 AM): i'm just worried, especially since this issue being unresolved is expressing itself in personal attacks on me by anonymous "strangers".
pxngxnqx (12:04:04 AM): i understand, i've set myself up as a critic and so have to take criticism in return, but his defense of you has consisted of name-calling and little else, so i'm a bit peeved. i don't mind an argument, i don't mind a debate. i don't mind being told i'm wrong. but i'm wondering from whence cometh such vitriol.
xnniexlxn (12:05:36 AM): i don't think that you hate me; i don't feel warm pink fuzzies either; but given the emotional ups and downs and the fucking soap opera that has been my life lately, i think i'm doing okay
pxngxnqx (12:05:59 AM): that's good then. i was really upset to think that all my explanation of myself hadn't gotten my point across.
pxngxnqx (12:06:21 AM): i was really concerned to think that you'd think that i'd only write something like that to attack you, when the purpose was quite the contrary.
xnniexlxn (12:07:10 AM): don't get me wrong, going back to read the post online would still piss me off and hurt me
pxngxnqx (12:07:45 AM): it wasn't meant to. but going back and reading the flier still pisses me off and hurts me, so i suppose there's only so much that rational discussion can do.
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pxngxnqx (12:11:38 AM): Hmm. Guess she wants me to take that post down. well, that image is linked from her website. if she takes the flier down, the post will be meaningless. i note that the flier is still up. bada-bing bada-boom. Post stays up.
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wasn't my entire point about taking the feelings of others into account? Freedom of expression and sensitivity must be balanced. This is my entire point. You can say anything you want, but you have to be responsible for it.
