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dragonlady7via http://bomberqueen17.tumblr.com/post/152992144294:jay-linden replied to your post “I was visiting my BFF’s house yesterday night and today, and so I was…”
I had a non-viable pregnancy where there literally was no longer a fetus any more, but I was still pregnant (see blighted ovum or missed miscarriage) and wouldn’t spontaneously miscarry, and I ended up having to have back to back D&Cs to avoid infection at the least, loss of my fertility or y'know, death at the worst. I have my beautiful rainbow baby now because those options were available to me, and my fertility/life wasn’t damaged by forcing it to happen ‘naturally’.
Pregnancy is dangerous and complicated. I have a deeply-held belief that the body of a person who can become pregnant is extremely sacred, and any apparatus that prevents that person exercising full control over that ability is anathema.
The same doesn’t go for people whose bodies can make other bodies pregnant. There’s nothing particularly sacred about that, to me; it’s already too protected by societal belief and our legal system. There’s no danger in impregnating someone. But there is inescapable, potentially-lethal danger in becoming pregnant, and even more in remaining pregnant, and still more in carrying a pregnancy to term. Even with all of the medical science and technology at our disposal, it isn’t a safe practice.
To deny anyone any fraction of the medical science and technology at our disposal because of a notion of controlling that person’s body without their consent is absolutely unconscionable.
The only reason it’s as acceptable as it is, is because our society is built upon the casual belief that women aren’t really people.
I had a non-viable pregnancy where there literally was no longer a fetus any more, but I was still pregnant (see blighted ovum or missed miscarriage) and wouldn’t spontaneously miscarry, and I ended up having to have back to back D&Cs to avoid infection at the least, loss of my fertility or y'know, death at the worst. I have my beautiful rainbow baby now because those options were available to me, and my fertility/life wasn’t damaged by forcing it to happen ‘naturally’.
Pregnancy is dangerous and complicated. I have a deeply-held belief that the body of a person who can become pregnant is extremely sacred, and any apparatus that prevents that person exercising full control over that ability is anathema.
The same doesn’t go for people whose bodies can make other bodies pregnant. There’s nothing particularly sacred about that, to me; it’s already too protected by societal belief and our legal system. There’s no danger in impregnating someone. But there is inescapable, potentially-lethal danger in becoming pregnant, and even more in remaining pregnant, and still more in carrying a pregnancy to term. Even with all of the medical science and technology at our disposal, it isn’t a safe practice.
To deny anyone any fraction of the medical science and technology at our disposal because of a notion of controlling that person’s body without their consent is absolutely unconscionable.
The only reason it’s as acceptable as it is, is because our society is built upon the casual belief that women aren’t really people.
