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btw I know ppl on this site go on abt mutuals but if you are someone that shows up in my notes regularly who I don’t follow, I do notice and I am fond of you and if you reblog something from me I do think “YES I have pleased the follower with good taste”

Yeah the thing is this site sometimes disincentivizes following someone back. There are users who are fantastic curators, who rebog extremely well-curated selections of things, who are instrumental to the site’s functions, but– I already follow everyone they’re reblogging, if I follow them back I’m going to have to wade through even more redundant stuff. It’s not like in the LJ days, where you’d friend someone to read their posts– it’s all reblogs on here, people rarely post their own things, so the majority of users mostly reblog things. which if you already have a lot in common with them, you’ve already seen.

So the structure of the site itself makes “mutuals” less of a reasonable thing than traditionally on other sites.

So if I don’t follow you back that doesn’t mean I don’t see you in my mentions and appreciate you, it’s just that it doesn’t make a ton of sense. I sort of wish this site didn’t flag mutuals for you, because a lot of people I follow are not people I expect to follow me, and a lot of people who follow me are not people I’m going to follow back. it’s not designed for that kind of relationship. Like– you reblog everything I post? Great, cheers, love it, but I don’t… need to read it because I already did??? Anyway it’s weird.

I do have a lot of followers with good taste who I appreciate but don’t follow back. Because that’s sort of the only sensible way to use this site. (Your picture was not posted)