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all correct, i don't trust anybody!, hm you'd think i'd get therapy about that but i know better, if i can't tell my dude of 18 years about it i cannot tell some nice lady with a clipboard

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I wish allistic people understood that infodumping about a special interest is a lot closer to baring your soul than sharing fun facts

Like the information itself isnt the point, its the conduit through which im trying to communicate with you. Its a love language.

What neurotypicals think it is: “I’m gonna ramble about this one specific thing that you’re not even interested in.”

What it actually is: “this is a thing that makes me happy, and I want to share my happiness with you because I feel comfy around you and I love you”

oh my god but here’s the weird corollary i’ve only sort of recently noticed:

i can only infodump about things that aren’t too too too close to my heart, unless i’ve got some plausible deniability.

doesn’t matter how much i love you. my personal obsessions are mine and mine only. if i am going on and on about something, it is not the thing closest to my heart.