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clotpoleofthelord replied to your post “hm”
<3 it sucks to psych yourself up for something and then have the choice taken away from you! But I’m glad you’re keeping yourself safer, honestly. We’re all going to have the CLEANEST HOUSES.
I will settle for having a house clean enough that i could have a visitor enter it and not get stuck in the doorway.
nogling replied to your post “singelisilverslippers replied to your post “productivity~” …”
oh god the apron makes it even better, in my head. I feel you - entirely. My house has suffered the effects of a three-month downswing, and I am sort of just now coming out of it and realizing that oh, god, the house is….really bad, because I’m the only one who cleans, and I’ve been depressed and haven’t been doing it. It’s my mess, and it’s bad, and it freaks me out to have to clean it, but I have learned that I will feel much, much better once it’s done.
Ha. Well, I had a horrible depressive episode like… a decade ago, and the house has not been cleaned since then really, so. it’s like. It’s worse than that. However bad you think it is, it’s worse than that. So this is BADLY needed. It’s all compounded as well by as I regained mental function, I started being absent from the house for weeks/months at a time, and my dude doesn’t apparently know what a broom is. (Recently he asked me if I knew where one was, when they’ve been kept in the same place since we moved here in 2005, so. Like.)
gnomeicecream replied to your post “productivity~”
-gif of I dont get no sleep cause of y'all- I don’t get no respect for my space cause of y'all, you don’t get no respect for your space cause of me
mikkeneko replied to your post “hm”
Best of luck with the cleaning.
^^ thanks guys, LOL.
For real though. I was already trying to clear out my house because 1) we need all new appliances and a new furnace, and 2) my parents were going to visit at the end of May and I was FREAKING OUT about that, but now their cruise around the Great Lakes (my parents have weird ideas of fun) is cancelled so I don’t have that May 30 deadline, but I also actually have a chance to really clean my house? so?
Annoyingly, Dude said he was pretty sure his job was going to go through a quiet phase and he’d have time to help, and then he cleared out one single mess (under the kitchen counter, so it was significant at least) and then hasn’t even had a moment to speak to me between 7am and 5pm any week day since, so I guess it’s good that he’s so motivated to do work but it’s not helping me stay motivated to work on the house, especially when I actually do need his feedback on like, what to prioritize and such. (He’s been spectacularly unhelpful so far– I said should I clean out the attic, or the basement, can’t be both, and he was like let’s start with both, and i’m like why did I say anything?????) (let’s be real when he said ‘let’s’ he meant ‘you’ anyway, so fuck it.)
Ughhhh my neck and shoulders are all fucked up today. bummer. time to come up with some sort of schedule so i don’t spend the entire day refreshing tumblr and being like “ohhhh i should do Thing I Hate next” and then not doing it because i hate it.
But like. When I say “oh my house is a mess” I mean, multiple rooms where I cannot access large areas of them because there is too much clutter to walk, not “oh ha ha I haven’t dusted in a while”. I’m really not being cute about this. my goal is not a Martha Stewart showroom house, my goal is not an active fire hazard. People joke about being hoarders but like, no, I am genetically and by inclination and by actual practice a hoarder, so like. This is serious. This is not cute. I managed for years but I lost control over it about a decade back and have never ever managed to recover. SO ANYWAY!
clotpoleofthelord replied to your post “hm”
<3 it sucks to psych yourself up for something and then have the choice taken away from you! But I’m glad you’re keeping yourself safer, honestly. We’re all going to have the CLEANEST HOUSES.
I will settle for having a house clean enough that i could have a visitor enter it and not get stuck in the doorway.
nogling replied to your post “singelisilverslippers replied to your post “productivity~” …”
oh god the apron makes it even better, in my head. I feel you - entirely. My house has suffered the effects of a three-month downswing, and I am sort of just now coming out of it and realizing that oh, god, the house is….really bad, because I’m the only one who cleans, and I’ve been depressed and haven’t been doing it. It’s my mess, and it’s bad, and it freaks me out to have to clean it, but I have learned that I will feel much, much better once it’s done.
Ha. Well, I had a horrible depressive episode like… a decade ago, and the house has not been cleaned since then really, so. it’s like. It’s worse than that. However bad you think it is, it’s worse than that. So this is BADLY needed. It’s all compounded as well by as I regained mental function, I started being absent from the house for weeks/months at a time, and my dude doesn’t apparently know what a broom is. (Recently he asked me if I knew where one was, when they’ve been kept in the same place since we moved here in 2005, so. Like.)
gnomeicecream replied to your post “productivity~”
-gif of I dont get no sleep cause of y'all- I don’t get no respect for my space cause of y'all, you don’t get no respect for your space cause of me
mikkeneko replied to your post “hm”
Best of luck with the cleaning.
^^ thanks guys, LOL.
For real though. I was already trying to clear out my house because 1) we need all new appliances and a new furnace, and 2) my parents were going to visit at the end of May and I was FREAKING OUT about that, but now their cruise around the Great Lakes (my parents have weird ideas of fun) is cancelled so I don’t have that May 30 deadline, but I also actually have a chance to really clean my house? so?
Annoyingly, Dude said he was pretty sure his job was going to go through a quiet phase and he’d have time to help, and then he cleared out one single mess (under the kitchen counter, so it was significant at least) and then hasn’t even had a moment to speak to me between 7am and 5pm any week day since, so I guess it’s good that he’s so motivated to do work but it’s not helping me stay motivated to work on the house, especially when I actually do need his feedback on like, what to prioritize and such. (He’s been spectacularly unhelpful so far– I said should I clean out the attic, or the basement, can’t be both, and he was like let’s start with both, and i’m like why did I say anything?????) (let’s be real when he said ‘let’s’ he meant ‘you’ anyway, so fuck it.)
Ughhhh my neck and shoulders are all fucked up today. bummer. time to come up with some sort of schedule so i don’t spend the entire day refreshing tumblr and being like “ohhhh i should do Thing I Hate next” and then not doing it because i hate it.
But like. When I say “oh my house is a mess” I mean, multiple rooms where I cannot access large areas of them because there is too much clutter to walk, not “oh ha ha I haven’t dusted in a while”. I’m really not being cute about this. my goal is not a Martha Stewart showroom house, my goal is not an active fire hazard. People joke about being hoarders but like, no, I am genetically and by inclination and by actual practice a hoarder, so like. This is serious. This is not cute. I managed for years but I lost control over it about a decade back and have never ever managed to recover. SO ANYWAY!
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Date: 2020-03-24 06:25 pm (UTC)lol the people who don't know where the brooms are. Yes. Thankfully my housemate and I have cleanliness thresholds that are within shouting distance of each other, but I often have to prevent myself from delivering a rant that would start with "Do you...know how...soap works?" or "Do you...understand...how things get dry? It requires free circulation of air around the thing that is wet" (you can tell I have mentally looped around this one a lot) because ofc I approach all of this from an appreciation of how the molecules are interacting, because who wouldn't!! and I have to remind myself that not everyone brings that background to it.
I have heard good things about UFYH (Unfuck Your Habitat) as far as having practical advice on where to start and how to pace oneself.