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tumblr will not stop telling me i have a message, but then not showing it to me when i look at my inbox.
I had stress nightmares i don’t remember and woke up super anxious and thought about how maybe if i fell down the stairs I wouldn’t have to go to work and like, work’s not even that bad so what would i even do if i didn’t go, nothing useful, suck it up.
unsurprisingly, despite my best efforts (i really did try), my laundry-list fic commenter found my reply condescending and just thinks my characterization of this character is just off in a couple of ways and i just ought to fix it and it’s an unwinnable argument all around.
So like. Here’s the thing. Either you trust the author or you don’t. If you don’t, then you’ve got to part ways. That’s the fundamental thing. if you don’t trust the author, it’s not going to end well. The emotional arcs aren’t going to resonate, the action points aren’t going to have any pop, and the character arcs are just not going to resolve properly. Because you don’t trust them.
But like. I’m not here to throw a shit fit because someone disagrees with me. I’m not here to police someone’s reactions to my shit. But I just– you either trust me, or you don’t, you can’t come to me and tell me “i don’t trust these elements but if you say these things instead I’ll trust you”– that’s not how this works.
You can say “these elements are worrying me and I’m afraid you won’t resolve them properly!” and I get it, then– like, these are important things to you, and if I don’t put a ton of thought into how I resolve them, I’ll have broken your trust! That’s a thing!
Maybe I’m just tone-policing then. But I feel like shit and am not really up for much beyond that level of analysis.
I need an adult.
tumblr will not stop telling me i have a message, but then not showing it to me when i look at my inbox.
I had stress nightmares i don’t remember and woke up super anxious and thought about how maybe if i fell down the stairs I wouldn’t have to go to work and like, work’s not even that bad so what would i even do if i didn’t go, nothing useful, suck it up.
unsurprisingly, despite my best efforts (i really did try), my laundry-list fic commenter found my reply condescending and just thinks my characterization of this character is just off in a couple of ways and i just ought to fix it and it’s an unwinnable argument all around.
So like. Here’s the thing. Either you trust the author or you don’t. If you don’t, then you’ve got to part ways. That’s the fundamental thing. if you don’t trust the author, it’s not going to end well. The emotional arcs aren’t going to resonate, the action points aren’t going to have any pop, and the character arcs are just not going to resolve properly. Because you don’t trust them.
But like. I’m not here to throw a shit fit because someone disagrees with me. I’m not here to police someone’s reactions to my shit. But I just– you either trust me, or you don’t, you can’t come to me and tell me “i don’t trust these elements but if you say these things instead I’ll trust you”– that’s not how this works.
You can say “these elements are worrying me and I’m afraid you won’t resolve them properly!” and I get it, then– like, these are important things to you, and if I don’t put a ton of thought into how I resolve them, I’ll have broken your trust! That’s a thing!
Maybe I’m just tone-policing then. But I feel like shit and am not really up for much beyond that level of analysis.
I need an adult.
