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I just went through my Dreamwidth and added back people who added me (I admit, I am still shaky on the difference between “subscribe” and “grant access”, like intellectually I get it but LJ didn’t make that distinction so I don’t have it engrained in my understanding, and so thusfar I’ve got everyone both), but part of what i also did was removing the access I granted when I auto-imported LJ a decade ago.
And let me tell you, it was sad, clicking on some of those names. Some were, like, RL lovers of decades gone by, and like, college friends, and people who didn’t make the transition– when LJ went to shit, they just drifted offline. Some of them, I’ve since found on FB, or Instagram, or elsewhere– but many of them are just, poof, gone. And that’s sad, so I had a little mourning session over that.
I’ve been searching people on DW as I scroll my feed and see them mention their handles, and so I’ve been trying to add them– but all the people mentioning Pillowfort logins, well, I can’t do that now, and I didn’t think to make, like, a text file or something. So you’re all gone to me, like tears in rain. Please, please, search for me when the site comes back up, because if you told me your handle but there was no link, I couldn’t find you, and now I don’t remember what you said.
And it strikes me– well, I’ve left all my Facebooking and Instagramming separate from my fannishness, mostly, though I’ve linked to it from here. So fannish people have found me there sometimes, and I like that and I add you back and all. But I don’t ever post anything fannish there. (It may have become apparent in the last year or so that honestly, I was never a very fannish person; I like to write fic because it gets engagement, but I never was big on it before Tumblr, and I’m sliding back into original stuff because I just can’t sustain being a fan of a canon that doesn’t love me, you know? and that’s all canons I didn’t invent.)
It’s not fandoms I care about. People list their fandoms in their profiles, and on DW it’s been fascinating seeing those of you who created those accounts five, ten years ago, who had interests I would never have thought, because you’ve changed– it’s not fandoms at all, though I’ve found a lot of things that way. It’s the transformative aspects, and appreciative aspects, and just– it’s how you, as a person, with a mind, and a set of experiences, intersect with a fandom, and the fandom part is just the hook. I don’t care what you’re into. I just want to find minds I can connect with, and watch you react to things, because I am a social animal and that’s how humans work.
ANYWAY– slightly redundant, but here’s the meat:
I’ll link my FB and Insta here too– just be aware, there’s basically only farm content, there. I don’t even talk about politics much, and I never talk about fandom. And i don’t really post on Twitter, I only retweet.
So here’s the master list. Please, please, please, Pillowfort people especially, if you told me your handle I don’t know it. I need you to reach out to me, I will not find you. I have no capacity to remember things. But feel free to find me anywhere else I am. Just understand, I don’t need you to show your love by posting about my fanfiction in front of my mother, lol. (She wouldn’t care, which would probably devastate me, which is why I’ve never mentioned it. Listen I don’t talk about my interests at all with RL people, I can’t even explain that.)
ME ON THE INTERNET:
Dreamwidth: dragonlady7 (at the moment, my feed is ugly, because I’ve had Tumblr set up crossposting there forever, and the crossposter doesn’t work well, but I don’t want to dismantle it until I’m sure I won’t put anything more original on Tumblr.)
Twitter: dragonladyB17
AO3: bomberqueen17
Pillowfort: bomberqueen17 but I don’t know how their links format argh! here’s a link to a random post of mine i could pull from email. Find me there.
Instagram: bomberqueen17
Facebook: my boring-ass government name, with a caveat– i use FB only to crosspost from Instagram, and I do not actually browse my friends feed, ever. Also I never installed Messenger, so it doesn’t notify me about DMs out of spite, so I don’t see them in any kind of timely fashion. It also doesn’t like to notify me about comments, but it emails me six times a day letting me know vague acquaintances from roller derby have made personal updates since I last logged in. I hate Facebook but only on a corporate level; I don’t read it enough to hate the people I know on it. BUT if you’re not going to be anywhere else, you can find me there, and when the dust settles, ask me where I live online.
I won’t be deleting my Tumblr, and I’ll probably keep using it a while, just like I did LJ– I’ll drift away once a sufficient mass of you has formed elsewhere to entertain me, though likely there’ll be a dead phase where I just have no online friends, and that’s that. So there’s time. If time passes and you realize I’m not following you, wherever you are, please do drop me a line on Tumblr.
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I just went through my Dreamwidth and added back people who added me (I admit, I am still shaky on the difference between “subscribe” and “grant access”, like intellectually I get it but LJ didn’t make that distinction so I don’t have it engrained in my understanding, and so thusfar I’ve got everyone both), but part of what i also did was removing the access I granted when I auto-imported LJ a decade ago.
And let me tell you, it was sad, clicking on some of those names. Some were, like, RL lovers of decades gone by, and like, college friends, and people who didn’t make the transition– when LJ went to shit, they just drifted offline. Some of them, I’ve since found on FB, or Instagram, or elsewhere– but many of them are just, poof, gone. And that’s sad, so I had a little mourning session over that.
I’ve been searching people on DW as I scroll my feed and see them mention their handles, and so I’ve been trying to add them– but all the people mentioning Pillowfort logins, well, I can’t do that now, and I didn’t think to make, like, a text file or something. So you’re all gone to me, like tears in rain. Please, please, search for me when the site comes back up, because if you told me your handle but there was no link, I couldn’t find you, and now I don’t remember what you said.
And it strikes me– well, I’ve left all my Facebooking and Instagramming separate from my fannishness, mostly, though I’ve linked to it from here. So fannish people have found me there sometimes, and I like that and I add you back and all. But I don’t ever post anything fannish there. (It may have become apparent in the last year or so that honestly, I was never a very fannish person; I like to write fic because it gets engagement, but I never was big on it before Tumblr, and I’m sliding back into original stuff because I just can’t sustain being a fan of a canon that doesn’t love me, you know? and that’s all canons I didn’t invent.)
It’s not fandoms I care about. People list their fandoms in their profiles, and on DW it’s been fascinating seeing those of you who created those accounts five, ten years ago, who had interests I would never have thought, because you’ve changed– it’s not fandoms at all, though I’ve found a lot of things that way. It’s the transformative aspects, and appreciative aspects, and just– it’s how you, as a person, with a mind, and a set of experiences, intersect with a fandom, and the fandom part is just the hook. I don’t care what you’re into. I just want to find minds I can connect with, and watch you react to things, because I am a social animal and that’s how humans work.
ANYWAY– slightly redundant, but here’s the meat:
I’ll link my FB and Insta here too– just be aware, there’s basically only farm content, there. I don’t even talk about politics much, and I never talk about fandom. And i don’t really post on Twitter, I only retweet.
So here’s the master list. Please, please, please, Pillowfort people especially, if you told me your handle I don’t know it. I need you to reach out to me, I will not find you. I have no capacity to remember things. But feel free to find me anywhere else I am. Just understand, I don’t need you to show your love by posting about my fanfiction in front of my mother, lol. (She wouldn’t care, which would probably devastate me, which is why I’ve never mentioned it. Listen I don’t talk about my interests at all with RL people, I can’t even explain that.)
ME ON THE INTERNET:
Dreamwidth: dragonlady7 (at the moment, my feed is ugly, because I’ve had Tumblr set up crossposting there forever, and the crossposter doesn’t work well, but I don’t want to dismantle it until I’m sure I won’t put anything more original on Tumblr.)
Twitter: dragonladyB17
AO3: bomberqueen17
Pillowfort: bomberqueen17 but I don’t know how their links format argh! here’s a link to a random post of mine i could pull from email. Find me there.
Instagram: bomberqueen17
Facebook: my boring-ass government name, with a caveat– i use FB only to crosspost from Instagram, and I do not actually browse my friends feed, ever. Also I never installed Messenger, so it doesn’t notify me about DMs out of spite, so I don’t see them in any kind of timely fashion. It also doesn’t like to notify me about comments, but it emails me six times a day letting me know vague acquaintances from roller derby have made personal updates since I last logged in. I hate Facebook but only on a corporate level; I don’t read it enough to hate the people I know on it. BUT if you’re not going to be anywhere else, you can find me there, and when the dust settles, ask me where I live online.
I won’t be deleting my Tumblr, and I’ll probably keep using it a while, just like I did LJ– I’ll drift away once a sufficient mass of you has formed elsewhere to entertain me, though likely there’ll be a dead phase where I just have no online friends, and that’s that. So there’s time. If time passes and you realize I’m not following you, wherever you are, please do drop me a line on Tumblr.
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Date: 2018-12-04 05:56 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2018-12-04 06:40 pm (UTC)"grant access" means you want them to be able to read you on *their* reading page.
Note: this doesn't mean they will! They'd have to then subscribe to you, in return. If they subscribe to you, that means they'll see your posts, but if you put a privacy setting on them, they won't. People have to have had access granted to see your locked posts. And even then-- you can make access filters, so that only specific accounts you want to see your particular posts can do so. That part, I'm familiar with from LJ-- it was called "friendslocking", and so only people who were your "friends" could read a default-Friendslocked post. The downside was, anyone you'd followed for any reason was by default allowed into this setting. So you'd have to then set up privacy filters where you allowed only the people you really meant to be friends with to read, if you had a lot of journals you followed who you didn't actually want to be able to read your less-public stuff.
So like, I'm following some BNF, and I mostly just want to read their posts-- great, I'll subscribe, but I won't grant access, because you never know when some BNF might get a wild hair and have an agenda and come into your friends-only posts and see something you don't want them to see.
I dunno-- it's a little theoretical to me. But it means you can differentiate "people I want to read" from "people who I want to be able to read me".
None of it matters if you post everything on public, which is now such an ingrained habit for me-- but I used to f-lock things and filter things on LJ, mostly like-- Only people who've told me they want to can see these posts about my pet interest, for example! Or, I want to talk about some drama but don't want to risk any of the participants reading about it, so i'm talking only to trusted mutuals about it. Or like... anything you'd tag "do not reblog", you just f-lock that shit so nobody who you haven't granted access to can see it in the first place.
it's an alien culture and I'm going to have some problems fitting back in, but I can still see the grooves it wore in my mind so long ago. It's coming back to me.
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Date: 2018-12-04 08:09 pm (UTC)For example: 99.5% of the stuff I post is unlocked. Anyone can see it. Super personal stuff dealing with like money or family or work stuff where I name names gets posted under access lock where only people I've given access to can see it.
There's another level where you can make custom lists of people for locked posts, but I've never used it and can't explain it. I'm friend with some people who use it for like WIP posts.
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Date: 2018-12-04 08:47 pm (UTC)I still have them, and I can tell from the names that like. One of them was "all of my friends except this particular person who I like a lot but who has a terrible habit of solutioning at me and so I don't want them to read my posts where I complain". Another one was "no derby" which obviously means anyone I know is involved in roller derby is specifically barred from these posts-- clearly, I did have some RL people, and now I remember I did have an issue where someone with f-lock access was stalking me and anonymously reposting LJ entries I friendslocked so that RL people I knew could see them, and it was unnerving. This person, I never found out who they were, stalked me across Myspace and Livejournal and as far as Dreamwidth, but had lost interest long before Tumblr. Fortunately, because if they'd followed me to Tumblr, there wouldn't have been anything I could do about it.
I had forgotten all about that.
There's nothing quite like seeing one of your f-locked LJ posts excerpted on a screen in a PowerPoint presentation to a room full of people you know in real life. 2007 was a thrill, I'll tell ya.
And I definitely had a filter that was just people who were beta-reading a story for me, so when I posted about it, only they saw. I'll probably do that again!