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pearwaldorf:
brigdh:
ladypolaris:
once-a-polecat:
firstorderqueercoalition:
hemlockcryptid:
countofeight:
the-butt-hutt:
can-i-be-your-alice:
the-butt-hutt:
can-i-be-your-alice:
miz-andry:
if queer is a standalone identity and ppl can just ID as it then i can do the same with fag. sexuality? fag. gender? fag. sorry it’s reclaimed
I never understood people who just claimed they were queer. Like, if I’m having a convo and I’m like “I’m bi” and they say “oh yeah, I’m queer” WHAT THE FUCK DOES THAT MEAN???? What am I suppose to get out of that????? That could mean ANYTHING to the LGBTQIASS2ALMPA+ community these days. What does queer even mean to people anymore?????
Tbh the people I know who ID as queer are all NB so they can’t really say gay or lesbian, and unless they’re bi I don’t think there are specific labels for NB attracted to women or NB attracted to men etc. Its easier just to say queer when the only “labels” availible to you are some slew of mogai terms
I guess that makes sense for NB people but again, what is that suppose to convey to me??? What is that suppose to tell me????
Maybe nothing at all? Some people don’t wanna have to explain every detail of their identity; they’d rather just say queer and be done. In the end it’s about what makes them feel good, not about what explains the most to others
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It literally means not het and/or cis that’s it. We queer folk dont gotta explain shit lol
Also sometimes “queer” can be a useful catch-all for people who are still figuring their shit out.
“What are you?” (as if it’s any of your business)
Responding “I’m queer” can be a good way to communicate “I dunno yet, but I’m definitely not a straight cis person.”
So chill.
Yeah, anyone who needs the exact right word so that they can sort people properly onto some bingo board can just fuck right off.
The entitlement of the OP’s argument is stunning. Queer can also be “I know exactly what I am and I don’t owe you shit.” So anyone who feels like they deserve details about my sexuality can fuck right off.
I think my favorite part of this nonsense is that OP clearly thinks they’re being super sarcastic, but… yeah, people absolutely do ID as fag. If you have never met one, maybe you should spend more time with older gays and less dictating other people’s identities.
Um, yeah, people do ID as fag. The same way some wlw ID as dykes. I’m not aware of any term mlm or wlw have used for themselves that has not been made into a pejorative at one point or another. So either we take these terms back or we allow the kyriarchy to define them for us. I’ll tell you which I’d rather do.
and like– exactly?? Queer means, exactly, I’m not what you’ve assumed me to be but what I am precisely, how I love and how I fuck and how I see the world, is none of your fucking business. I goddamn love that and I hate how we’re required to basically confess to our every intimacy with all these subcategories and labels, either for the delectation of straight voyeurs (who listen to the litany with a smug little frisson of oh how scandalous, like whatever our specific identity is is so salacious, and what we do in bed is required to be confessed so it can define us) or for the scrutiny of the Gay Purity Police who are grimly listening with a clipboard checking things off and tallying it up at the end to find out if we’re gay enough. Oh and you can’t call that one thing what you’ve always called it, because we’ve decided that word doesn’t mean what your mentors invented it to mean, you have to either confess that you’re an exclusionist or use this other word someone else made up that you’re not sure you understand, just so you know! Keep up! Chop chop!
UGH.
I love the subcategories and labels, of course I do; unraveling them and exploring them and matching up to them, that start of recognition when you find out that something you always thought was a weird personal quirk is actually something with a community behind it– of course I love that! But I don’t want to share that with just anyone, particularly a possibly hostile audience who only wants it so they can judge me for it.
No, motherfuckers: queer is all that audience is going to get out of me.
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pearwaldorf:
brigdh:
ladypolaris:
once-a-polecat:
firstorderqueercoalition:
hemlockcryptid:
countofeight:
the-butt-hutt:
can-i-be-your-alice:
the-butt-hutt:
can-i-be-your-alice:
miz-andry:
if queer is a standalone identity and ppl can just ID as it then i can do the same with fag. sexuality? fag. gender? fag. sorry it’s reclaimed
I never understood people who just claimed they were queer. Like, if I’m having a convo and I’m like “I’m bi” and they say “oh yeah, I’m queer” WHAT THE FUCK DOES THAT MEAN???? What am I suppose to get out of that????? That could mean ANYTHING to the LGBTQIASS2ALMPA+ community these days. What does queer even mean to people anymore?????
Tbh the people I know who ID as queer are all NB so they can’t really say gay or lesbian, and unless they’re bi I don’t think there are specific labels for NB attracted to women or NB attracted to men etc. Its easier just to say queer when the only “labels” availible to you are some slew of mogai terms
I guess that makes sense for NB people but again, what is that suppose to convey to me??? What is that suppose to tell me????
Maybe nothing at all? Some people don’t wanna have to explain every detail of their identity; they’d rather just say queer and be done. In the end it’s about what makes them feel good, not about what explains the most to others
THIS
It literally means not het and/or cis that’s it. We queer folk dont gotta explain shit lol
Also sometimes “queer” can be a useful catch-all for people who are still figuring their shit out.
“What are you?” (as if it’s any of your business)
Responding “I’m queer” can be a good way to communicate “I dunno yet, but I’m definitely not a straight cis person.”
So chill.
Yeah, anyone who needs the exact right word so that they can sort people properly onto some bingo board can just fuck right off.
The entitlement of the OP’s argument is stunning. Queer can also be “I know exactly what I am and I don’t owe you shit.” So anyone who feels like they deserve details about my sexuality can fuck right off.
I think my favorite part of this nonsense is that OP clearly thinks they’re being super sarcastic, but… yeah, people absolutely do ID as fag. If you have never met one, maybe you should spend more time with older gays and less dictating other people’s identities.
Um, yeah, people do ID as fag. The same way some wlw ID as dykes. I’m not aware of any term mlm or wlw have used for themselves that has not been made into a pejorative at one point or another. So either we take these terms back or we allow the kyriarchy to define them for us. I’ll tell you which I’d rather do.
and like– exactly?? Queer means, exactly, I’m not what you’ve assumed me to be but what I am precisely, how I love and how I fuck and how I see the world, is none of your fucking business. I goddamn love that and I hate how we’re required to basically confess to our every intimacy with all these subcategories and labels, either for the delectation of straight voyeurs (who listen to the litany with a smug little frisson of oh how scandalous, like whatever our specific identity is is so salacious, and what we do in bed is required to be confessed so it can define us) or for the scrutiny of the Gay Purity Police who are grimly listening with a clipboard checking things off and tallying it up at the end to find out if we’re gay enough. Oh and you can’t call that one thing what you’ve always called it, because we’ve decided that word doesn’t mean what your mentors invented it to mean, you have to either confess that you’re an exclusionist or use this other word someone else made up that you’re not sure you understand, just so you know! Keep up! Chop chop!
UGH.
I love the subcategories and labels, of course I do; unraveling them and exploring them and matching up to them, that start of recognition when you find out that something you always thought was a weird personal quirk is actually something with a community behind it– of course I love that! But I don’t want to share that with just anyone, particularly a possibly hostile audience who only wants it so they can judge me for it.
No, motherfuckers: queer is all that audience is going to get out of me.
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