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sugarspiceandcursewords replied to your post “Precisely as I was worried would happen, my car was fogged up so badly…”
From the outside, it seems like your issues are your problem but his issues…are your problem. Which sounds frustrating. I don’t have good suggestions, just wanted to say I hear you.
!!!!!
Yes, this is– yes, I hadn’t seen it that way but that makes it kind of. Boil down into making more sense.
It’s not awful, it’s just not ideal, and having a better framework really helps.
… He did one simple cleaning task I asked him to, incompletely, and that was it for the day; clearly I’m on my own if I want us to have a better life. Maybe I’ll ask him to just go stay with his mom for a couple days and leave me on my own to clean, since he doesn’t seem to want to have anything to do with it.
I don’t know if my sisters really will follow through but I might as well do what I can on my own. I never get far, I mostly pick up an item and wander in circles and then set it down when I pick up another item, and repeat until I’ve completely mislaid most of the things I care about, and give up. But.
Trying is better than not trying, I guess. And if I just had a couple of days off in my own house not going anywhere, maybe I could carrot-and-stick myself into actually doing a project. The vast majority of clutter in my house is things I acquired or kept so that I could do a project with them, and then I’ve never completed a project in my life, so half-finished projects are everywhere and I can’t get rid of them. So if I could focus on one, and do it–
Well, that might be a vain hope, but it might not be, and that’s what I got.
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sugarspiceandcursewords replied to your post “Precisely as I was worried would happen, my car was fogged up so badly…”
From the outside, it seems like your issues are your problem but his issues…are your problem. Which sounds frustrating. I don’t have good suggestions, just wanted to say I hear you.
!!!!!
Yes, this is– yes, I hadn’t seen it that way but that makes it kind of. Boil down into making more sense.
It’s not awful, it’s just not ideal, and having a better framework really helps.
… He did one simple cleaning task I asked him to, incompletely, and that was it for the day; clearly I’m on my own if I want us to have a better life. Maybe I’ll ask him to just go stay with his mom for a couple days and leave me on my own to clean, since he doesn’t seem to want to have anything to do with it.
I don’t know if my sisters really will follow through but I might as well do what I can on my own. I never get far, I mostly pick up an item and wander in circles and then set it down when I pick up another item, and repeat until I’ve completely mislaid most of the things I care about, and give up. But.
Trying is better than not trying, I guess. And if I just had a couple of days off in my own house not going anywhere, maybe I could carrot-and-stick myself into actually doing a project. The vast majority of clutter in my house is things I acquired or kept so that I could do a project with them, and then I’ve never completed a project in my life, so half-finished projects are everywhere and I can’t get rid of them. So if I could focus on one, and do it–
Well, that might be a vain hope, but it might not be, and that’s what I got.
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