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lazaefair replied to your post “Precisely as I was worried would happen, my car was fogged up so badly…”
I’d take up your sisters’ offer on helping to clean, especially if they don’t have ADHD or have a better/different handle on it. I’m kind of the same way, I’d live in my own filth if it weren’t for various friends who have helped me out every so often, and I’ve learned to let go of my hangups regarding that. Because if they’re offering, then I get to take them up on it. And a cleaner living space is *so* much better for everyone’s mental health.
I mean– yes, and, but. I have a two-bedroom house, with one guest bedroom. My sisters live 300 and 600 miles away, respectively. If they came to help me, it wouldn’t just be, oh let’s come over for a couple hours over several evenings. It would be, here we are for three days, find a place we can sleep and also there will be no breaks because you have to finish while we’re here.
So, that’s what’s holding me back. #1 where would the second one sleep, and #2, how on earth can I organize this massive marathon push? I sure can’t stack boxes in the guest bedroom, or the living room if I put the second sister on the couch. So where are we going to sort things? How do I logistically manage this?
The very thought of it gives me fucking nightmares.
Maybe the nightmares can motivate me to do it a little at a time until they can visit and just help me repaint, or something.
(I helped one of them move, last year, and the other one, I did what I actually need, which is go over for several hours a few nights in a row over the course of several weeks while I was staying at the third sister’s house. So I get their impulse and would totally not mind at all them repaying the favor they owe me like this, except that I literally can’t begin to figure out how on earth that would work.)
What I really really need is to get my attic cleaned out, hire contractors to insulate it, and then I have a second guest-bedroom temporarily, and a place to put stuff while we work. But there are a lot of impediments to that, and I don’t know where to start.
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lazaefair replied to your post “Precisely as I was worried would happen, my car was fogged up so badly…”
I’d take up your sisters’ offer on helping to clean, especially if they don’t have ADHD or have a better/different handle on it. I’m kind of the same way, I’d live in my own filth if it weren’t for various friends who have helped me out every so often, and I’ve learned to let go of my hangups regarding that. Because if they’re offering, then I get to take them up on it. And a cleaner living space is *so* much better for everyone’s mental health.
I mean– yes, and, but. I have a two-bedroom house, with one guest bedroom. My sisters live 300 and 600 miles away, respectively. If they came to help me, it wouldn’t just be, oh let’s come over for a couple hours over several evenings. It would be, here we are for three days, find a place we can sleep and also there will be no breaks because you have to finish while we’re here.
So, that’s what’s holding me back. #1 where would the second one sleep, and #2, how on earth can I organize this massive marathon push? I sure can’t stack boxes in the guest bedroom, or the living room if I put the second sister on the couch. So where are we going to sort things? How do I logistically manage this?
The very thought of it gives me fucking nightmares.
Maybe the nightmares can motivate me to do it a little at a time until they can visit and just help me repaint, or something.
(I helped one of them move, last year, and the other one, I did what I actually need, which is go over for several hours a few nights in a row over the course of several weeks while I was staying at the third sister’s house. So I get their impulse and would totally not mind at all them repaying the favor they owe me like this, except that I literally can’t begin to figure out how on earth that would work.)
What I really really need is to get my attic cleaned out, hire contractors to insulate it, and then I have a second guest-bedroom temporarily, and a place to put stuff while we work. But there are a lot of impediments to that, and I don’t know where to start.
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Date: 2018-01-15 11:10 pm (UTC)1- Is there a motel/hotel/B&B where your sisters can stay?
2- Would it be better to pay a professional to come help you go through your stuff?
3- If you decide to go with having your sisters help, do you think the unfuck your habitat model would be helpful? (I only suggest a method because it's literally the only one that's ever worked even a little for me where I don't end up on the floor sobbing and overwhelmed.)
4- Do you think it would work better for 1 sister to come, then a break then the other sister?
My sisters and I are currently helping my mom go through her Stuff. We'll go over, do a couple hours of hardcore going through with no mercy, and we stop when the back of mom's car is full of stuff to donate. Then we give mom a few weeks to recover.