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My family’s been on minimal gift-giving for a while, but there are kids now, so we gotta do things for the kids, you can’t not.
My problem is mostly, I think, that I go so long without buying anything. I did break down and buy myself some clothing at a site that had a good sale.
Online has saved me, though. In real life I get too anxious about how much it all costs, because with my math issues I really can’t keep a running tally in my head or calculate what 25% off $40 is etc., so I either buy literally everything that strikes me with no idea how much it’s going to cost, OR walk out without buying anything because I have no idea how much it’s going to cost.
Being able to stick everything that strikes my fancy into an online shopping cart, go through the whole store and make sure I’ve found what I want, and then go to another store and do the same before coming back and buying only what I actually want from the store with the product most likely to be what I really want– with breaks to do other stuff, without leaving my house, without being tired and hungry and thirsty and footsore and worried about my companions or lost because I didn’t bring any–
well, that’s made a huge difference. I still wind up buying more things than I wanted sometimes, or buying too few of something for the number of people I’m shopping for, but. At least it’s possible.
I used to waste so much time in shopping malls, and most of the time I’d go home empty-handed because the majority of the stores didn’t have clothes that fit me (one memorable occasion, I was too fat for any of the misses’-size stores like Express or Gap, but too thin for Lane Bryant, and cried in the mall bathroom because I needed work pants and literally could not buy any in the entire mall). So, the Internet has saved shopping for me.
But I still have impulse-control problems because the way I avoid spending more than I earn is by simply not shopping, but I can’t just not ever buy clothes, even if I can make myself things I can’t make stuff for all occasions.
(I bought a floor-length chiffon skirt on clearance just now, and a bracelet-sleeve chunky faux-fur jacket, neither of which I needed but neither of which I could really live without anymore either. Don’t get too sympathetic, LOL.)
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My family’s been on minimal gift-giving for a while, but there are kids now, so we gotta do things for the kids, you can’t not.
My problem is mostly, I think, that I go so long without buying anything. I did break down and buy myself some clothing at a site that had a good sale.
Online has saved me, though. In real life I get too anxious about how much it all costs, because with my math issues I really can’t keep a running tally in my head or calculate what 25% off $40 is etc., so I either buy literally everything that strikes me with no idea how much it’s going to cost, OR walk out without buying anything because I have no idea how much it’s going to cost.
Being able to stick everything that strikes my fancy into an online shopping cart, go through the whole store and make sure I’ve found what I want, and then go to another store and do the same before coming back and buying only what I actually want from the store with the product most likely to be what I really want– with breaks to do other stuff, without leaving my house, without being tired and hungry and thirsty and footsore and worried about my companions or lost because I didn’t bring any–
well, that’s made a huge difference. I still wind up buying more things than I wanted sometimes, or buying too few of something for the number of people I’m shopping for, but. At least it’s possible.
I used to waste so much time in shopping malls, and most of the time I’d go home empty-handed because the majority of the stores didn’t have clothes that fit me (one memorable occasion, I was too fat for any of the misses’-size stores like Express or Gap, but too thin for Lane Bryant, and cried in the mall bathroom because I needed work pants and literally could not buy any in the entire mall). So, the Internet has saved shopping for me.
But I still have impulse-control problems because the way I avoid spending more than I earn is by simply not shopping, but I can’t just not ever buy clothes, even if I can make myself things I can’t make stuff for all occasions.
(I bought a floor-length chiffon skirt on clearance just now, and a bracelet-sleeve chunky faux-fur jacket, neither of which I needed but neither of which I could really live without anymore either. Don’t get too sympathetic, LOL.)
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