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i mean we know he canonically destroyed shit for funsies and Curiosity as a child! poe “i put a podracer engine on the koyo picker and burned the fuck out of our entire farm because dad wouldn’t let me, a child, fly my dead mother’s ship directly into a meteor shower” dameron
Ha ha ha ha haaaa I was vaguely aware about this incident, and yes, that’s whence came some of this headcanon. We didn’t honestly get that much in the film, he could have been a goody-two-shoes baby from the film characterization and his insane recklessness could all have been chalked up to desperation, but literally all the supporting materials indicate that no, no he’s just like that, and he’s good with all of his heart but he’s also a reckless nutjob son of a gun who has never actually had a genuine moment of chill in his entire life.
He’s super good at faking chill. Okay he’s actually not in any way convincing at faking chill. He’s respectful, and people sometimes mistake that for chill. It’s not chill.
I have a headcanon that Kes probably did a lot of smother-hugs to restrain him as a child, and like, talked him down a lot. Boy we’re just going to sit here for a little bit until we’re all calmed down and then we’re going to try again okay? Okay. Kes also probably did a lot of the holding him until he fell back asleep.
Shara was probably… not ideally-suited, temperament-wise, to mitigating his total lack of chill, and in our society where she’d be expected to spend a lot of one-on-one time with him, she’d have been miserable. Fortunately she was allowed to raise him properly, and by that I mean, not be the one he touchy-feely-fixated on most of the time, and not be the only one expected to stay up all night with him and then keep up with him by herself all the next day [it drives me insane that I know so many mothers of whom this is expected]. She probably had some guilt that she wasn’t calm and serene like he needed, but Kes and her father had that shit nailed down pretty good; she was golden to amp him up and let him run around a lot, which was the kind of parenting she really wanted to do anyway. She got to be the Fun Parent, and Kes was pretty sanguine about being the boring stick-in-the-mud dad because he was also the one Poe cried out for in his sleep, and Kes was the kind of masochist who found that shit endearing.
But that meant that Poe lost her right when he really needed her, right as he was finally getting enough self-control to really enjoy her company and get a lot out of it, right as he was old enough to have the background knowledge to be able to build upon with her specialized knowledge, right as she really could have begun to relate to him like an adult to an adult. (I still remember getting to this point with my dad, who’d always been great at teaching me stuff, but then finally I was big enough to actually do instead of just be shown, and it was so amazing, and he could talk about really complicated stuff and I had the background reading to know what he meant and really analyze it, and it wasn’t that he hadn’t appreciated me before, but now I could be on the same level as a lot of his friends were, he could talk to me like an adult, sometimes I was more interesting and more up-to-speed than any adult in the room, and it was so great and so amazing.)
And now I’ve made myself sad.
i mean we know he canonically destroyed shit for funsies and Curiosity as a child! poe “i put a podracer engine on the koyo picker and burned the fuck out of our entire farm because dad wouldn’t let me, a child, fly my dead mother’s ship directly into a meteor shower” dameron
Ha ha ha ha haaaa I was vaguely aware about this incident, and yes, that’s whence came some of this headcanon. We didn’t honestly get that much in the film, he could have been a goody-two-shoes baby from the film characterization and his insane recklessness could all have been chalked up to desperation, but literally all the supporting materials indicate that no, no he’s just like that, and he’s good with all of his heart but he’s also a reckless nutjob son of a gun who has never actually had a genuine moment of chill in his entire life.
He’s super good at faking chill. Okay he’s actually not in any way convincing at faking chill. He’s respectful, and people sometimes mistake that for chill. It’s not chill.
I have a headcanon that Kes probably did a lot of smother-hugs to restrain him as a child, and like, talked him down a lot. Boy we’re just going to sit here for a little bit until we’re all calmed down and then we’re going to try again okay? Okay. Kes also probably did a lot of the holding him until he fell back asleep.
Shara was probably… not ideally-suited, temperament-wise, to mitigating his total lack of chill, and in our society where she’d be expected to spend a lot of one-on-one time with him, she’d have been miserable. Fortunately she was allowed to raise him properly, and by that I mean, not be the one he touchy-feely-fixated on most of the time, and not be the only one expected to stay up all night with him and then keep up with him by herself all the next day [it drives me insane that I know so many mothers of whom this is expected]. She probably had some guilt that she wasn’t calm and serene like he needed, but Kes and her father had that shit nailed down pretty good; she was golden to amp him up and let him run around a lot, which was the kind of parenting she really wanted to do anyway. She got to be the Fun Parent, and Kes was pretty sanguine about being the boring stick-in-the-mud dad because he was also the one Poe cried out for in his sleep, and Kes was the kind of masochist who found that shit endearing.
But that meant that Poe lost her right when he really needed her, right as he was finally getting enough self-control to really enjoy her company and get a lot out of it, right as he was old enough to have the background knowledge to be able to build upon with her specialized knowledge, right as she really could have begun to relate to him like an adult to an adult. (I still remember getting to this point with my dad, who’d always been great at teaching me stuff, but then finally I was big enough to actually do instead of just be shown, and it was so amazing, and he could talk about really complicated stuff and I had the background reading to know what he meant and really analyze it, and it wasn’t that he hadn’t appreciated me before, but now I could be on the same level as a lot of his friends were, he could talk to me like an adult, sometimes I was more interesting and more up-to-speed than any adult in the room, and it was so great and so amazing.)
And now I’ve made myself sad.
