answered, Anonymous
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hugs I’m so sorry you have to feel this way.
I’m sad too. I’m sad that this is how people seem to have conflicts now. I’m sad that there’s so much eagerness to use anything possible as a bludgeon to knock down anyone who disagrees what they’re saying. (FFS I saw a screenshot of a posting where someone was arguing that it’s too cruel to make people type out their triggers, because that’s making them interact with the problematic material– and so people should just?? assume?? what people’s triggers are??? wtf guys, triggers are real things and are complex and if you cannot muster yourself to interact with them enough to tell people what they are then you should not be interacting with a public fandom space you should be getting help.)
Their metrics for bullying and assholery are that someone disagreed with them, and as I have been puzzling out, it turns out there’s no possible way to disagree without being branded an asshole. I’m not sorry I worked so hard to be as polite and neutral as possible, it just seems not to have mattered to them. It matters to me, though.
I’ve heard rumors that people are sending anon asks flaming the EBB mods and such– I’d be dismayed, except I’ve seen no actual evidence of this. I don’t think this is actually happening; I think people are afraid it might. I hope nobody does! I don’t think this is something it’s worth spreading hate about! I’m not interested in that.
I hope it doesn’t color your enjoyment of the fandom– I’ve found it reassuring, actually, that so many people have reached out to me in support, that so many people have come together to say No, that’s not normal, it shouldn’t be like that. The Fisstech & Succubi https://fisstech-and-succubi.tumblr.com/post/639434858228236288/rules-hello-witcher-friends-and-welcome-to-the event I reblogged is something that was sort of already in the works but has gotten bumped up to be a consolation for people excluded by the EBB, and while I know EBB is trying to paint it as Gross Stuff Only, it’s actually just a general-purpose exchange, and will probably be mostly pretty vanilla. (I know I’m planning to participate if I can figure out any way at all to do it, and I’m going to write precisely what I usually do, which is… stuff similar to canon, only less misogynist usually, LOL.)
And there are any number of other fandom spaces and events that remain welcoming, and won’t turn on you or demand you shut up and walk away. I wish you luck in finding them. (LOL sorry, I don’t really know how to use discord, so I don’t have any good links for nontoxic ones. I wish I did!)
Please don’t let this ruin it. We haven’t even gotten our season 2 yet. Stay with us. Most of us are reasonable and the loud ones are few. (Your picture was not posted)