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1031.

It’s not even the fear so much as the despair the knowing we’ll be told just ignore them and they’ll go away. Act normal and it’ll all be fine. The numbers mean nothing if no one does anything and I’m thinking more and more that’s the bit I just cannot bear to know and be helpless and there’s Cassandra again goddamnit there’s the bitch right there. Not in the fear so much as the despair.

Molly!! ever listen to a line that you've always loved but not quite been able to place why and then

things that really resonate with nonbinary peeps, i have that same sort of feeling, anyway, also these songs are a bop if not my style, i have enjoyed them, so that's a rec, I'M FREE IDIOTS, a very lambert feel

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oofta!!! you know, a few people have said to me that “never been much of a good good woman” was something that resonated with them re: Gender Stuff, and honestly, i’m really happy that it does, for a host of reasons. i’m cis, but i’m lazy about it, insofar as like … Performing Womanhood goes. that’s never dipped its toe into any gender identity questions, because actually i do really love all the accoutrements of being a woman and i’m thrilled to be one, but i there is something so tiring, i think, about expectations of womanhood, sometimes. (i assume it’s also very tiring to be a man, or to be nonbinary; having never been either of those things, i couldn’t say.)

all that being said: what makes me so happy about people telling me that this line has resonated them with regard to being or not being cisgendered is that – hoo boy i hope this is not unwoke, give me a little grace here team – it makes me feel really, like, unified? in a weird way? whether you are comfortable in your gender, or newly recognizing it, or realizing that what was assigned isn’t you at all, we’re all kind of … in a boat together.

like. is anybody good at being their gender. what does that even mean. you can be a good woman and still be kind of bad at being a woman; you can be a good man and still kind of bad at being a man. (you can be a bad man or bad woman and still “good” at “being a man or a woman.”) (…..& then i guess nonbinary people really just out there being like i’M FREE, IDIOTS, which i gotta say: i admire.)

i think gender is always a process, of being, of becoming, of changing; i’m a woman because i’m a woman, and how i act out being a woman is specific to who and how i am at any given time.

it’s like how my favorite thing in all the world is bowling. i LOVE bowling. i have my own bowling shoes. but i am … guys. i am BAD at bowling. i am NOT good at it, but i AM enthusiastic, and honestly, isn’t that what being a gender should be about???? just having a good time and turning on the disco lights???