From Twitter 12-29-2010

[dragonlady7]

• @ClaireViolets I know I was expecting way worse. Well, there we go!
  
• @ClaireViolets Oh lordy it was awful. I'm glad I had the excuse of new wheels; everyone else just seemed miserable.
  
• @ilanajoy I always get two or three NYE invites and feel special, but @zobar2 gets to choose where we go (it's his b-day) so we... stay in.
  
• Slow day at work. It's really nice for a change, but I keep thinking about all the stuff I have to do at home...
  
• Going to be putting in an order for wheels/bearings/skate parts. Lemme know, #derby peeps and #qcrbf, if anybody wants anything.
  
• @shannonsmith138 @zobar2 I think he was talking about the Decimator, who Tweets as @bananasgalore. Different Dewey.
  
• ARGH. Said, "Mom, should I come home for Gram's funeral?" Mom: "It's up to you." WHAT DOES THAT MEAN. I don't know what's right!
  
• I'm the only grandchild in the state. It's 300 miles each way. I was just there. I get no paid time off from work, but can afford it.
  
• Can I really just e-mail an obit to the minister to readHow tacky will that sound? Sisters are in IL, CO, and GA. I'm the only 1 who can go.
  
• Argh Baby Sister confirms that it's "Up To Me" and I still don't know what the hell is the right thing to do.
  
• I'm gonna do the only possible thing: Get drunk.
  
• Oh, Grandma's obituary: http://bit.ly/fuMkdS #fb
  
• Ugh. Amtrak is $88 BUF->ALB. Greyhound is $80. Flying is like a thousand dollars. I gotta drive if I'm going.
  
• I'm getting drunk and writing her obit for my sisters and it's all about how practical she was. Would she want this?
  
• Drinking was definitely not the good idea I thought it would be.
  

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Comments

[jennnlee.livejournal.com]

Honestly, don't stress about going to the funeral if getting there would be a huge pain in the ass. Gram wouldn't want that, I bet. And you got to see her and say goodbye to her, and that's what really counts. I had the same situation when my Grandma died. I was the last person she spoke to and she was coherent enough in the hospital to recognize, but after she passed I had to go home and go back to work. (Wow, AND she passed away during the holidays AND I was working retail...) My parents told me not to worry about making the memorial service.

Anyway, just my thoughts on it. Getting drunk helps too.

[dragonlady7.livejournal.com]

The sisters mostly agreed with me that it wasn't all that feasible for me to go. Two could have changed plans and stayed, so I'm not the only one conflicted. The older sister had the helpful insight that our mother is probably happier without any houseguests, even one so undemanding as me. (By that I mean, she won't take any trouble over me, not that I'm not annoying. ;))

Drinking sorta made me more maudlin and melodramatic, but I feel better for having been so. I've been mourning my grandmother by little bits for years. I'm more useful going about my business here.

Thanks for the input, though. It has helped me feel a bit better. My situation's not so odd and people go through this sort of thing all the time.

[kkatowll.livejournal.com]

I think crafting a carefully composed memorial is a beautiful and meaningful way to see her off, and I think she WOULD appreciate that -- and appreciate it more, probably, than you wasting all that time driving when you could be crafting something beautiful to be read instead.