Man, who here remembers that time my boss told me I

[dragonlady7]

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Man, who here remembers that time my boss told me I didn’t need any raises because I have a sugar daddy*? I haven’t had a raise since he decided that, and hadn’t in some time– four, five years now– and I just overheard a coworker (during an hour-long personal phone call) mention her income, which is nearly $4/hr more than mine, and I’m just feeling real icky at the moment.

* newer readers may wonder, does B have a sugar daddy? Well. I have a partner of 15 years that I supported through college and with whom I have joint finances, who currently earns literally four times what I do. Is that sugar daddy???
Part of my old boss’s issue was that he was a devout Catholic, of course, and therefore since my dude and I aren’t married our relationship can only be based in sin. Dude also used to scoff at how much I hated children since I didn’t have any. So.

Anyway. I wish I hadn’t heard that, I didn’t need that information.

Why do I only have talents that aren’t worth money.

Comments

[kkatowll.livejournal.com]

For debate. Many women are paid less than other people (incl other women) because they don't negotiate well.
I would strongly recommend you broach this topic with him.
It is awkward and uncomfortable and scary.
But it's important - for you, for your morale and for his ethical treatment of his workers in the future.
Here's a possible script:
"Hey, I haven't gotten a raise in (x) years. Could we discuss this?"

Alternatively - "Hey, I've been dissatisfied for a long time now about not getting a raise. I've been offered another job, but I would sort of like to stay here - I know the job, I like the people. If you're willing to increase my pay, I'd like to stay. But if not, I have to make the right financial decisions for my family."

If he brings up your "sugar daddy" I would suggest this, said in a firm but polite way:
"Do you ask all of your employees to provide details about their household before you decide on their pay?"

Anyway, I just think you're being really abused by that guy and have for years. He's a terrible boss. Go get him.

[dragonlady7.livejournal.com]

Oh, he quit last year. He's been replaced with the girl who disclosed her salary during her hour-long personal call at her desk yesterday. She's so incompetent it doesn't matter.

I'm trying to quit, I just need to be able to earn enough at my sister's farm.
I'm only staying on expressly because they'll literally let me work whenever I feel like it.
It'd be great if they paid me even ten bucks an hour, but I'm not holding my breath. I'm just trying to leave, and everyone knows it. That's not the grounds from which to negotiate. They couldn't pay me enough to stay anyway.

[kkatowll.livejournal.com]

Ah, well, that does make negotiations difficult. Any luck on getting Z to work from the farm?

[dragonlady7.livejournal.com]

I haven't asked? I'm not prepared to permanently relocate, really. I don't really know what I want. I just know I don't want to be in that camera store anymore.

[kkatowll.livejournal.com]

That's a good place to start from.