Continuation, on anonymity
Jun. 5th, 2002 10:04 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
dragonlady7So, we have some results on our anonymous flamer (see comments on my previous post; I owe some people haikus for their help. Thanks for signing names! Below you'll see what I do to hostile anonymous posters.)
Look, just for the record, I had parted ways with Miss Lin on what I thought was a good note, despite my outrage on the behalf of my beloved housemate who I felt had been greviously wronged; I took an extra hour when I should've been packing to write her an email, nay, an essay [privacy-protected, so if you can't read it, that's why; it's not public, not even now], explaining everything I had observed about darius and his relationships with people, especially her-- basically, she was upset that he seemed to be treating her poorly after their breakup, and I went to great lengths to explain to her all kinds of ways that this was nobody's fault, that it was his way of dealing with what had happened, that she had merely misunderstood and that's why he was annoyed, etc-- all kinds of touchy-feely shit, that was actually quite sincere. [I hate to see needless conflict between people. So I go out of my way to try and clear up misunderstandings. I've always done this; I helped my sister Katy break up with her boyfriend in high school, I do this for people I barely know. It's just a question of imagining the other person's point of view. Nobody seems to do that, and I don't know why. I know it's hard for me to remember to do when it's me that's in trouble... but others seem to never do it... anyhow.]
So we talked for like 2 hours, and then she got booted from IM, so I sent her an email with everything else I could think of, to make her feel better, maybe understand what had gone wrong, what he was doing now, why things were how they were... explain why I was so outraged and felt that my friend had been so wronged, etc. At the time, she seemed to be following me, and admitted that perhaps the flier had been harsh, that she had underestimated how involved darius still was in her career, etc... but now, I don't even think she fucking read it. She's decided that the issue was not that perhaps she had indeed misinterpreted the emotions of the other person involved, but that I am in fact a bitch, and hate her. And therefore can't be expected to bring any kind of valid viewpoint to a discussion.
Or so I am left to believe.
Otherwise, how did Mr. Brian W. Spencer of Chicago, Illinois get to this post, and with such an overwhelmingly positive view of me? (FYI, if you go look at the flier in question in that post, he would be the dude that's not Annie. Nope, no connection to her whatsoever.)
You know, I bet he just surfed on in, randomly. Yeah. Seeing as my journal is blocked from being indexed by any robots or spiders (read: no search engines, so he's not gonna find it in a google search. Period), and I'm not linked to from anywhere except my friends' journals, and my own IM profile (i'm quite sure he doesn't have my screen name. I don't have his, anyhow). He could have found me by doing a random search on livejournal... but there are something in the order of 25,000 users. Maybe more. And then he'd have to page back 40 entries or so.
So yes, I'm gonna go with him finding that entry randomly.
And Miss Lin had nothing to do with it.
Oh my respect for her has increased exponentially.
I'm so glad I bothered to write her a god damn novel explaining everything she could ever want to know in the kindest possible terms about the relationship in question, so that she could sic her dogs on me. Jesus fucking christ, I was just listening to her god damn CD (which I bought two copies of, by the way. If anyone wants a copy of Kicking Stars, I've given one away but still have one of my own) this morning and thinking about how next time she's on this coast i should try and bring my sister, who'd dig that kind of show...
Well, it just goes to show; you can lead a pissed-off ex-girlfriend to reason, but you can't make her listen. Fuck dat shit, she'll only sic flamers on you. Never mind. But if that's how she wants to play, she's bitten off far far more than she can chew, I assure you.
Sometimes messing with people is just unsportsmanlike. But if they beg you for it, well how can you deny them?
Look, just for the record, I had parted ways with Miss Lin on what I thought was a good note, despite my outrage on the behalf of my beloved housemate who I felt had been greviously wronged; I took an extra hour when I should've been packing to write her an email, nay, an essay [privacy-protected, so if you can't read it, that's why; it's not public, not even now], explaining everything I had observed about darius and his relationships with people, especially her-- basically, she was upset that he seemed to be treating her poorly after their breakup, and I went to great lengths to explain to her all kinds of ways that this was nobody's fault, that it was his way of dealing with what had happened, that she had merely misunderstood and that's why he was annoyed, etc-- all kinds of touchy-feely shit, that was actually quite sincere. [I hate to see needless conflict between people. So I go out of my way to try and clear up misunderstandings. I've always done this; I helped my sister Katy break up with her boyfriend in high school, I do this for people I barely know. It's just a question of imagining the other person's point of view. Nobody seems to do that, and I don't know why. I know it's hard for me to remember to do when it's me that's in trouble... but others seem to never do it... anyhow.]
So we talked for like 2 hours, and then she got booted from IM, so I sent her an email with everything else I could think of, to make her feel better, maybe understand what had gone wrong, what he was doing now, why things were how they were... explain why I was so outraged and felt that my friend had been so wronged, etc. At the time, she seemed to be following me, and admitted that perhaps the flier had been harsh, that she had underestimated how involved darius still was in her career, etc... but now, I don't even think she fucking read it. She's decided that the issue was not that perhaps she had indeed misinterpreted the emotions of the other person involved, but that I am in fact a bitch, and hate her. And therefore can't be expected to bring any kind of valid viewpoint to a discussion.
Or so I am left to believe.
Otherwise, how did Mr. Brian W. Spencer of Chicago, Illinois get to this post, and with such an overwhelmingly positive view of me? (FYI, if you go look at the flier in question in that post, he would be the dude that's not Annie. Nope, no connection to her whatsoever.)
You know, I bet he just surfed on in, randomly. Yeah. Seeing as my journal is blocked from being indexed by any robots or spiders (read: no search engines, so he's not gonna find it in a google search. Period), and I'm not linked to from anywhere except my friends' journals, and my own IM profile (i'm quite sure he doesn't have my screen name. I don't have his, anyhow). He could have found me by doing a random search on livejournal... but there are something in the order of 25,000 users. Maybe more. And then he'd have to page back 40 entries or so.
So yes, I'm gonna go with him finding that entry randomly.
And Miss Lin had nothing to do with it.
Oh my respect for her has increased exponentially.
I'm so glad I bothered to write her a god damn novel explaining everything she could ever want to know in the kindest possible terms about the relationship in question, so that she could sic her dogs on me. Jesus fucking christ, I was just listening to her god damn CD (which I bought two copies of, by the way. If anyone wants a copy of Kicking Stars, I've given one away but still have one of my own) this morning and thinking about how next time she's on this coast i should try and bring my sister, who'd dig that kind of show...
Well, it just goes to show; you can lead a pissed-off ex-girlfriend to reason, but you can't make her listen. Fuck dat shit, she'll only sic flamers on you. Never mind. But if that's how she wants to play, she's bitten off far far more than she can chew, I assure you.
Sometimes messing with people is just unsportsmanlike. But if they beg you for it, well how can you deny them?
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Date: 2002-06-05 08:21 pm (UTC)How could somebody who lived with Darius for a year say that???
It amuses me to no end that there's all this arguing about somebody who doesn't even care about this shit. At least, he never mentions it at fencing, and if he were so broken up why does he leave practice early with that girl all the time?
-holmes
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Date: 2002-06-05 08:36 pm (UTC)Leaving practice early!
shit, don white robes and wait on the roof for the world to end.
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Date: 2002-06-05 10:10 pm (UTC)