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@buttons-beads-lace said: Sending you sympathy re: muttering. That would make me grumpy too.I don’t have this problem myself, but I know a decent number of other people who do. Shelves/cupboards that don’t have doors on them, so you can see everything even when it’s put away, is the main advice I’ve heard.
As for shoe storage, I have one of those big awkward shoe racks myself. I would suggest one of those things that hangs on a door, but (a) they never seem to fit well enough to allow the door to close completely (b) your shoes would probably be out of sight sometimes when the door is open.
If I were you I would probably keep leaving my shoes on the floor, but make some concession to organization, like having only one place for shoes. Maybe get a rug or one of those plastic trays to put them on, so it looks like they belong there.
@kimya-gee said: I have the object impermanence thing too. Currently half my stuff is in a storage unit and I have to go like once every other week to look through it to remember what I have. I currently have no idea what kind of shoes or clothes I have in the closet I don’t regularly use so I just assume I have nothing. I don’t really have any idea of how to fix the issue, I tend to make myself search through all my closets before I buy new stuff though to make sure I don’t buy the same thing over. Doesn’t always work but it helps.
@salamanderinspace said: I also have the object impermanence thing, though not as bad as my husband. Our fridge is full of expired food that he buys and then completely forgets about. But with my shoes I’ve done a few different things. I had a one of those little corner hammocks, like for kids toys. Also, the over the door shoe organizer, but that won’t hold boots. The problem is, grouping all the shoes together in a bucket or organizer “erases” them in my brain. So I need them to be visually separate. In the new house I spray-painted a punch of shoe boxes, then nailed them to the wall like shelves. It ain’t classy but they’ve been holding up: [cute picture of shoeboxes with things on them] Ultimately though, I think nothing works as well as the “leaving things strewn on the floor” method.
and @kiwisson said: immediate thought: what about just taking the door off the closet? then things will have a designated space but will still be visible.
Excellent suggestions all, but it’s not just a couple pairs of shoes, it’s my whole house. I spent today putting things into boxes and labeling them, and sorting things, while the dude built me a set of shelves and emptied empty boxes out of a corner of the basement. I have lived here ten years and have not had my shit together one time in that decade, and without help I can’t really get anywhere at fixing it. My sister promised me she would come visit and help, but hasn’t; on my own, I can spent a solid six hours walking from room to room arguing with myself about what I should be doing, and about a cumulative thirty minutes actually doing three minutes here, one minute here, thirty seconds there on the fifty different things I think I should be doing, before abandoning them and resuming my aimless wandering around the house.
At the moment I know I stopped in the middle of a task and came up the stairs to get something, but I don’t know what I meant to get, and it’s been 45 minutes. But at least those shelves are in a place, and the boxes I started putting things into three weeks ago now have somewhere to eventually go.
Baby steps? I just want there to be enough flat surfaces in my house that I could invite a friend over for dinner. That’s pretty ambitious, at this point.
@buttons-beads-lace said: Sending you sympathy re: muttering. That would make me grumpy too.I don’t have this problem myself, but I know a decent number of other people who do. Shelves/cupboards that don’t have doors on them, so you can see everything even when it’s put away, is the main advice I’ve heard.
As for shoe storage, I have one of those big awkward shoe racks myself. I would suggest one of those things that hangs on a door, but (a) they never seem to fit well enough to allow the door to close completely (b) your shoes would probably be out of sight sometimes when the door is open.
If I were you I would probably keep leaving my shoes on the floor, but make some concession to organization, like having only one place for shoes. Maybe get a rug or one of those plastic trays to put them on, so it looks like they belong there.
@kimya-gee said: I have the object impermanence thing too. Currently half my stuff is in a storage unit and I have to go like once every other week to look through it to remember what I have. I currently have no idea what kind of shoes or clothes I have in the closet I don’t regularly use so I just assume I have nothing. I don’t really have any idea of how to fix the issue, I tend to make myself search through all my closets before I buy new stuff though to make sure I don’t buy the same thing over. Doesn’t always work but it helps.
@salamanderinspace said: I also have the object impermanence thing, though not as bad as my husband. Our fridge is full of expired food that he buys and then completely forgets about. But with my shoes I’ve done a few different things. I had a one of those little corner hammocks, like for kids toys. Also, the over the door shoe organizer, but that won’t hold boots. The problem is, grouping all the shoes together in a bucket or organizer “erases” them in my brain. So I need them to be visually separate. In the new house I spray-painted a punch of shoe boxes, then nailed them to the wall like shelves. It ain’t classy but they’ve been holding up: [cute picture of shoeboxes with things on them] Ultimately though, I think nothing works as well as the “leaving things strewn on the floor” method.
and @kiwisson said: immediate thought: what about just taking the door off the closet? then things will have a designated space but will still be visible.
Excellent suggestions all, but it’s not just a couple pairs of shoes, it’s my whole house. I spent today putting things into boxes and labeling them, and sorting things, while the dude built me a set of shelves and emptied empty boxes out of a corner of the basement. I have lived here ten years and have not had my shit together one time in that decade, and without help I can’t really get anywhere at fixing it. My sister promised me she would come visit and help, but hasn’t; on my own, I can spent a solid six hours walking from room to room arguing with myself about what I should be doing, and about a cumulative thirty minutes actually doing three minutes here, one minute here, thirty seconds there on the fifty different things I think I should be doing, before abandoning them and resuming my aimless wandering around the house.
At the moment I know I stopped in the middle of a task and came up the stairs to get something, but I don’t know what I meant to get, and it’s been 45 minutes. But at least those shelves are in a place, and the boxes I started putting things into three weeks ago now have somewhere to eventually go.
Baby steps? I just want there to be enough flat surfaces in my house that I could invite a friend over for dinner. That’s pretty ambitious, at this point.
