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inkskinned:
like it’s valid to discuss “fake bi girls” basically only in the context of media. as a bi girl, i am Sick And Tired of the “quirky bi girl” who has an ex-girlfriend for the sake of the male gaze and who never mentions her sexuality other than as an oddly fetishized off-color comment. these girls almost always have dyed hair and an Attitude and usually fall for the main boy. and i get being pissed off that so much of our representation is basically “bi is a quirky trait not a matter of personal identity,” i get complaining that so many of us in media end up with boys, that it does seem through media’s lens that we’re sort of… not queer. we’re usually playful, sexually devious but willing to Settle For the Right Man, usually … fake bi. because 9 out of 10 times, they’re not written by bi girls, and as a result they’re… really dishonest to our actual experience.
all of this still does not mean that you can get mad at a real life bi girl for choosing a man as a partner. sorry bud.
This so much.
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oleanderthoughts:
inkskinned:
like it’s valid to discuss “fake bi girls” basically only in the context of media. as a bi girl, i am Sick And Tired of the “quirky bi girl” who has an ex-girlfriend for the sake of the male gaze and who never mentions her sexuality other than as an oddly fetishized off-color comment. these girls almost always have dyed hair and an Attitude and usually fall for the main boy. and i get being pissed off that so much of our representation is basically “bi is a quirky trait not a matter of personal identity,” i get complaining that so many of us in media end up with boys, that it does seem through media’s lens that we’re sort of… not queer. we’re usually playful, sexually devious but willing to Settle For the Right Man, usually … fake bi. because 9 out of 10 times, they’re not written by bi girls, and as a result they’re… really dishonest to our actual experience.
all of this still does not mean that you can get mad at a real life bi girl for choosing a man as a partner. sorry bud.
This so much.
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