bananonbinary:here’s another fun fact: asexual doe

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here’s another fun fact: asexual does not mean nonsexual.

asexuals’ relationship with sex and sexual attraction tends to be….complicated. there’s a bit of an idea of like, oh of course, you’re either sex-favorable, sex-neutral, or sex-repulsed, but honestly i see a LOT of discussion about how wildly different those can each look for each individual. some people are comfortable with some acts in very specific contexts, and deeply upset by them in all others. some people find certain forms of nonsexual intimacy (like kissing) to still be off-limits, while something most people might consider more charged (like nudity) is totally fine. a lot of us just kind of have a long laundry list like “this is fine, this isn’t, that one’s okay, that one’s always off-limits….” because the big secret is that “sex” isn’t really any cohesive act as much as a lot of little things that people just threw together and called one thing.

as for attraction: some aces are actually attracted to other people once in a blue moon, and simply don’t want to clarify that every time. some aren’t entirely sure, but don’t want to spend their whole lives guessing. some ARE completely sure they never have and never will feel an attraction.

at the end of the day, much like any label, this single word really doesn’t tell you much of anything about what a person is actually like unless you bother to ask them what it means to them. (Your picture was not posted)

chapter update on Peace-Tied

roche is so cranky

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I started to post this three days ago and then didn’t? for some reason? so then i tried to do it this morning and it took me forever and i think my brain’s not working properly.

anyway. i couldn’t think of any warnings to put on this chapter because it’s all in-between things, and as i was writing it i was like “oh i’m gonna cut this down to a summary” and then I didn’t, so like, apologies for the pacing, this could be snappier probably but i just don’t have it in me. sometimes writing a shorter thing takes much longer than a long one and it’s a skill i haven’t currently the time to master.

so this is Chapter 7, which is here on AO3 https://archiveofourown.org/works/32023453/chapters/83636047, and contains some remarkably oblivious grumpy pining on Roche’s behalf, and dwarves being dwarves. Oh and an intro to my headcanons about aen seidhe musical traditions.

After a little while, the elves stopped singing, and fell into conversation. They’d switched from elder speech into common, Roche could catch from the snippets that drifted back, because the dwarves were participating, and the two more social of the humans.

“When,” Iorveth said, turning his head to look back at the column, “have you ever,” and he was speaking to one of the dwarves. He broke off in laughter, and faced away again.

“Don’t be so mean,” Breniriel said, “Ruarigh does his best.”

“The only thing Ruarigh ever does his best at,” Iorveth turned back to say, “is fucking and buggery.”

“Don’t forget eating,” the dwarf, possibly Ruarigh himself, said. “I always devote my fullest efforts to eating.”

“Fair,” Iorveth conceded, and turned back. He was– Roche mentally rolled his eyes at himself for bothering to note that Iorveth was very comfortable in the saddle. The elf had been a cavalry officer for years, one didn’t get that job by being shitty at horseback riding. But he was impressively fluid, dropping the reins to gesture as if it were nothing, rising in the stirrups to check the road ahead, turning his whole upper body to look back with an effortless shift of balance that didn’t interrupt his horse’s stride in the slightest.

Perhaps it was that the dwarf, beside him, looked so uncomfortable on his mount… No, Roche judged, Iorveth was just a beautiful rider.

It was fucking unfair that he couldn’t stop noticing these things, now that Iorveth had unfortunately moved to take up even more space in his mind. And his ass; he still didn’t hurt, after these hours in the saddle now, but somehow he was ever more aware of last night’s adventures, and a traitorous part of his body wanted to elide all the conversation that had happened afterward and resume those activities instead, terrible idea though it was. (Your picture was not posted)

lierdumoa:@staff,I believe that tumblr’s decision

_official blogs on here, fuckers

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staff https://tmblr.co/mr_BTLFg8QzTPUMVSbe3vbg, I believe that tumblr’s decision to delete the satirical fan blog, osha_official, is a violation of user rights under fair use.

First let’s be clear — none of the people who followed this blog actually believed that it was an official representative of the OSHA organization. It was obvious to all of us that the “official” in the blog title was satirical. We all fully understood that it was simply a fan blog that spread enthusiasm about labor rights and safety standards.

This is tumblr, after all. The layperson’s website.

The users on this website take PRIDE*♡* in the website’s lack of “bluechecks.” Many of us look upon influencer culture and corporate PR with disdain.

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If tumblr staff https://tmblr.co/mr_BTLFg8QzTPUMVSbe3vbg were truly concerned about a blogger impersonating an organization, then I do not understand why staff https://tmblr.co/mr_BTLFg8QzTPUMVSbe3vbg didn’t simply require the blog to change its name, rather than deleting it altogether. This blog was beloved.

The osha_official fan blog made lighthearted, cheeky posts that support labor rights & safe working environments. It was relatable, and comforting, for us to be able to like and reblog posts of that nature.

For many users this deletion feels like a direct attack on our collective freedom of expression, and on our community identity.

Many of us are laborers ourselves.

Tumblr is one of the ONLY social media websites left in which users feel safe to voice genuine grievances about bad working conditions without fear of our bosses finding out and firing us.

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Please bring it back. (Your picture was not posted)

subjunctive

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I sometimes think I might die on the hill of using the subjunctive mood https://www.merriam-webster.com/words-at-play/getting-in-the-subjunctive-mood in English at every available opportunity.

and by ‘die on the hill’ i mean ‘get murdered by my beta-readers’ LOL (Your picture was not posted)