"A List of “Men’s Rights” Issues That Feminism

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A List of “Men’s Rights” Issues That Feminism Is Already Working On

Feminists do not want you to lose custody of your children. The assumption that women are naturally better caregivers is part of patriarchy.

Feminists do not like commercials in which bumbling dads mess up the laundry and competent wives have to bustle in and fix it. The assumption that women are naturally better housekeepers is part of patriarchy.

Feminists do not want you to have to make alimony payments. Alimony is set up to combat the fact that women have been historically expected to prioritize domestic duties over professional goals, thus minimizing their earning potential if their “traditional” marriages end. The assumption that wives should make babies instead of money is part of patriarchy.

Feminists do not want anyone to get raped in prison. Permissiveness and jokes about prison rape are part of rape culture, which is part of patriarchy.

Feminists do not want anyone to be falsely accused of rape. False rape accusations discredit rape victims, which reinforces rape culture, which is part of patriarchy.

Feminists do not want you to be lonely and we do not hate “nice guys.” The idea that certain people are inherently more valuable than other people because of superficial physical attributes is part of patriarchy.

Feminists do not want you to have to pay for dinner. We want the opportunity to achieve financial success on par with men in any field we choose (and are qualified for), and the fact that we currently don’t is part of patriarchy. The idea that men should coddle and provide for women, and/or purchase their affections in romantic contexts, is condescending and damaging and part of patriarchy.

Feminists do not want you to be maimed or killed in industrial accidents, or toil in coal mines while we do cushy secretarial work and various yarn-themed activities. The fact that women have long been shut out of dangerous industrial jobs (by men, by the way) is part of patriarchy.

Feminists do not want you to commit suicide. Any pressures and expectations that lower the quality of life of any gender are part of patriarchy. The fact that depression is characterized as an effeminate weakness, making men less likely to seek treatment, is part of patriarchy.

Feminists do not want you to be viewed with suspicion when you take your child to the park (men frequently insist that this is a serious issue, so I will take them at their word). The assumption that men are insatiable sexual animals, combined with the idea that it’s unnatural for men to care for children, is part of patriarchy.

Feminists do not want you to be drafted and then die in a war while we stay home and iron stuff. The idea that women are too weak to fight or too delicate to function in a military setting is part of patriarchy.

Feminists do not want women to escape prosecution on legitimate domestic violence charges, nor do we want men to be ridiculed for being raped or abused. The idea that women are naturally gentle and compliant and that victimhood is inherently feminine is part of patriarchy.

Feminists hate patriarchy. We do not hate you.

If you really care about those issues as passionately as you say you do, you should be thanking feminists, because feminism is a social movement actively dedicated to dismantling every single one of them. The fact that you blame feminists—your allies—for problems against which they have been struggling for decades suggests that supporting men isn’t nearly as important to you as resenting women. We care about your problems a lot. Could you try caring about ours? ”

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Excerpt from If I Admit That Hating Men is a Thing, Will You Stop Turning it Into a Self-fulfilling Prophecy?, by Lindy West (via lilac-time http://lilac-time.tumblr.com/)

fucking THANK YOU

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*this is a BIG thing that men don’t get about feminism and patriarchy. *

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I’ve reblogged this before but it bears repeating

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*Everyone. Please read this. Please just stop what you’re doing, and please read this. This is so critical, so important. Please read. *

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BTW this is the same woman who wrote the hilarious excerpt that was going around about her husband playing the trumpet.

Think for a moment (sometimes I do!) about all the women who have to write these exhausting Feminist Theory tomes, and what they would do with their time if they did not have to keep restating the same shit. I think about it a lot. Lindy West is so fucking funny. And she’s got to spend most of her career writing shit like this, which is so important and so vital. But she’s so fucking hilarious.

SPINNING

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So the spinning wheel I bought at an auction, carefully pulled out the flyer and bobbin assembly and wrapped in a padded bag, and then flung into my car and left there?

WORKS

it’s in beautiful working condition with not a single bit missing. (Ok there’s a spot where a wooden pin could go to lock the wheel into place but also it’s securely there all the time so the pin’s pretty damned optional.)

Which, my dear friend unicornduke https://tmblr.co/mVpJNDQaUH5cHEJCTfGjjzQ​ had surmised from the photos of the wheel in the auction lot, which was why she’d advised me to bid on that one (a further clue was that it had a spoke in the wheel and another part that connects the treadle to the wheel that were both mismatched in color, unstained, but otherwise entirely identical to the others down to the decorative lathe-work, so it had clearly been carefully restored for use, not just decoration). But it was lovely to have it confirmed.

She came over and looked it over with me, put some oil on it for me, helped me get it put together, and then sat and spun a couple of yards of roving she’d brought with her and left with me. (She gave me all the stuff she doesn’t like spinning, on the grounds that she’s not using it and then I can see if I like it, which I well might.)

[image description: a blonde person with short hair sits next to the kitchen table at a spinning wheel with a white facemask on, operating the spinning wheel with roving in one hand and adjusting the tension thingy with the other; her socked foot is visible on the treadle]

(sorry that’s sort of an awkward photo, I was distracted LOL)

So it’s an antique wheel, certainly, and the weird bit that sticks up- in the photo it looks like a horizontal bar across the wheel, it’s really in front of the wheel– is a holder for a distaff, which would be extremely helpful if I were spinning flax on it, which is my ultimate goal. So. It has a very tiny orifice, so tiny that the orifice hook unicornduke https://tmblr.co/mVpJNDQaUH5cHEJCTfGjjzQ​ had with her wouldn’t even come close to fitting in it and we had to improvise one from floral wire, like a needle threader– which means it can’t really spin very chunky yarn. Which is fine, because here’s the thing, I can’t fucking knit, so I don’t know what I’d do with chunky yarn, though I’m sure I have enough knitters in my family/inner circle that I’d have no problem disposing of it if I did.

But I have enough information to know which techniques I probably ought to bone up on first, given my ultimate goal, and I’m going to spin a truly heinous skein of practice yarn and then give it to my mom and act like I think it’s perfect and ask if she can knit me something elaborate with it, LOL. (No, I’ll probably make myself a really doofy tapestry loom out of cardboard and weave myself a hideous wall hanging. I feel like that would be a useful way to use a test skein that is at this moment only about three yards long and two of them UD spun and the one I spun is wildly variant in thickness and twist and general yarniness and it’s only going to get worse from there.)

Anyway– I have a spinning wheel, ha ha! I was expecting I’d have to spend as much again as I paid for it to get it repaired to usable condition, but no! I just need to learn what I’m doing. And google for an “orifice hook” which just sounds like it’s going to bring up bad things but I’m sure it’ll be fine.

And Saturday afternoon probably we’re going to attempt to process some flax!!! from the huge stash in the barn and also riding around in the back of UD’s truck.

writing tip #2980:

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get more time to write by neglecting everything else in your life