My coworker has been with his wife since 2002 as well, and he and I occasionally like to terrify each other by pointing out how much dating has changed since then and how absolutely utterly doomed either of us would be if we tried to date again. He actually dated, though, he's a few years older than me and went through a few serial-monogamy-type relationships before settling on the current one. I had a girlfriend, and then a couple of uh encounters, we'll say, but I never really dated; the girlfriend glommed onto me and I was like ??? oh no I get it now, I live here forever now and then had to move to a different continent. But the dude, well. I mean.
Incidentally I read many novels with that plot and actually that made me remember a song I used to really like that was exactly a story of that plot, and it was Mark Knopfler and I don't remember the name of the song. Ah, it was called Prairie Wedding and it was on the album Sailing To Philadelphia, and it's on Spotify or Google Play or iheartradio but apparently not YouTube, which was where I would have linked to it. Anyway it's very atmospheric and I listened to it a lot circa, hmmm, 2000 or so, and had completely forgotten it. I liked it because it's a question, not an answer. Instead of pop songs that never acknowledge the unknowability of the woman-as-object character, this one is entirely predicated on it. We get nothing of her internality, and it's sort of blunt and terrifying, and sort of dreamy-wistful-frightened. Maybe I'm remembering it through a filter... I should listen to that album again. I like songs that do that, albums that do that-- tell a story from a really close POV. Do you think you could love me, Mary?
... I want to read fics with that plot, I had not thought of it as a fanfic trope.
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I had a girlfriend, and then a couple of uh encounters, we'll say, but I never really dated; the girlfriend glommed onto me and I was like ??? oh no I get it now, I live here forever now and then had to move to a different continent. But the dude, well. I mean.
Incidentally I read many novels with that plot and actually that made me remember a song I used to really like that was exactly a story of that plot, and it was Mark Knopfler and I don't remember the name of the song.
Ah, it was called Prairie Wedding and it was on the album Sailing To Philadelphia, and it's on Spotify or Google Play or iheartradio but apparently not YouTube, which was where I would have linked to it. Anyway it's very atmospheric and I listened to it a lot circa, hmmm, 2000 or so, and had completely forgotten it.
I liked it because it's a question, not an answer. Instead of pop songs that never acknowledge the unknowability of the woman-as-object character, this one is entirely predicated on it. We get nothing of her internality, and it's sort of blunt and terrifying, and sort of dreamy-wistful-frightened. Maybe I'm remembering it through a filter...
I should listen to that album again. I like songs that do that, albums that do that-- tell a story from a really close POV.
Do you think you could love me, Mary?
... I want to read fics with that plot, I had not thought of it as a fanfic trope.