First of all, I don't know that validation from a stranger half the world over from you is gonna be of much help ;-) but what Person B did was absolutely dickish, and only speaks to their own personality and conduct (dickish!), not yours.
Second of all... Being chill is overrated. I mean, here we all are, squeeing about fictional characters, expending endless energy to craft these little missives of evidence of our investment in them. Creative and passionate and involved, these are the qualities that make fandom the wonderful place that it is. Chill, I don't know. Chill is at odds with vulnerability, and vulnerability is such a crucial thing in fandom. So maybe don't beat yourself up about not being chill?
But I totally get where you're coming from, and my words are only meant to support you. I've been where you're at, feelings-wise, and that place sucks. Hugs!
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First of all, I don't know that validation from a stranger half the world over from you is gonna be of much help ;-) but what Person B did was absolutely dickish, and only speaks to their own personality and conduct (dickish!), not yours.
Second of all... Being chill is overrated. I mean, here we all are, squeeing about fictional characters, expending endless energy to craft these little missives of evidence of our investment in them. Creative and passionate and involved, these are the qualities that make fandom the wonderful place that it is. Chill, I don't know. Chill is at odds with vulnerability, and vulnerability is such a crucial thing in fandom. So maybe don't beat yourself up about not being chill?
But I totally get where you're coming from, and my words are only meant to support you. I've been where you're at, feelings-wise, and that place sucks. Hugs!