For what it's worth, I would like to add my voice: the person who broke your confidence and boundaries did a very thoughtless and hurtful thing and your feelings about it are entirely justified. I totally understand that it can take the shine and inspiration off a new writing project too.

In the same breath, I do realize that I'm one of the people that do follow everything you write, following you from fandom to fandom, but largely lurking. So, I can do better about showing my appreciation for your writing!